I ended my EMA over a year ago. I have been involoved with someone else (a SG) for just over a year.

I'm STILL getting calls and hang ups from xMM.

Should I call him and say "knock it off" or do I ignore him?

Katie,

Sorry to hear you have such a stubborn OM to deal with. Can you change your phone #? At least at home? Howz about letting your BF call him each time he calls?

I know you like to handle your own problems and that is commendable but it sounds like this OM does not like 'defeat' regardless of the reason. For that point alone I don't think it is wise for you to contact him. Even an angry response from you may soothe his savage beast.

take care,
L.

Usually he calls me cell phone. IT's a strange sort of things.

I have to say that honestly I feel sorry for the guy. His marriage had not gotten any better (when last we spoke) over the summer. His life kind of sucks, but that's not my problem.

I do have a soft heart for him, but thankfully not a soft head. I treat him like an errant child. He's on time-out and not allowed to speak to me.

I may do well to change my cell phone number. That's hard though since I use it so much for business.

Katie,

Geeze, being home does have it's advantages!!! LOL! I have a few days off and spent a few hours of it here. he he he <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Anyway, changing the cell is understandably hard for those of us that use it for business but consider it a safety precaution for you and your son.

As for the OMs marriage not improving, are you really surprised? Look at where his efforts have been. If I was the W, I'd be getting a bid fed up also. Remember that is his description......isn't he a pretty good deceiver?

JMHO, I know you are a level headed person and will make the right decision. Howz your little one doing?

take care,
L.

KS,
Change your cell #, if possible. If it's not possible then ignore him. Do you have call blocking?? Even talking to you a bit is just the 'fix' he needs to keep coming back(even telling him to go away is all it takes for him to keep trying)! Enlist the help of your new SG, you two are a team now and should be working together to create the relationship you both want and need. (I suspect that relationship does not include MM!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ) If all else fails...get a restraining order. You deserve a 'normal' life, you are working hard to create that. His selfish actions are trying to prevent you from creating the happiness you deserve!

Hi Katie,

Long time, Hon. I'm with Orchid on this one. I wouldn't contact him ... any contact reignites feelings. It's like that saying "any reaction is a good reaction", meaning you know there are still emotions or feelings.

I'm very happy for you regarding the single guy you are with. Is he meeting all your needs, Hon? Have you two done the EN's questionaire, or is it wayyyyyyy too soon for that?

Jo

I had to respond for a very frivolous reason. Not many people are aware of Scarlett's actual first name. I am a huge GWTW fan. So I had to say hello...Maybe he will get the idea that "Frankly, my dear you dont give a damn" I couldnt resist.
His problems are his own not yours...best of luck!

SG meets my needs.

I printed a copy of it, but was too afraid to give it to him. He's a pretty vocal kind of guy. He's happy to say "I need X". I'm pretty much the same way. I tell him where i'm at with things. And he tells me.

We were at the theatre the other night we a famous actor was in the audience. What's funny is that I used to have a GIANT crush on this actor, but sitting there next to SG I thought "that guy doesn't hold a candle to my guy." That was a nice feeling.

SG says that he's happy to step in and handle MM and I do feel like we're a team on that front. I honestly don't think that it will make a difference.

The other strange thing is that MM and I have always had this weird connection. I can tell when he's thinking about me. I can feel it. I've been feeling him lately but I ignored it. My 4 year old son, however, is apparently getting the same vibe. Completely out of hte blue he says the other day "MM's on the phone for you." I said what. And he laughed.

Later SG was in the bathroom. My son says "who's in the bathroom?" I asked "who do you think?" He responds "MM".

My son hasn't seen this man in a LONG time. It was just strange I begin to "feel" MM then my son mentions him 3-4 times in 1 weekend when he's NEVER mentioned him before. Not even when MM and I were together.

Then MM calls this morning.

I'm working on "let go and let god." Meanwhile I need to check into the logistics of changine my cell phone number.

LOL @ ayslyne

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Ayslyne wrote:
I had to respond for a very frivolous reason. Not many people are aware of Scarlett's actual first name. I am a huge GWTW fan.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I am so lost. Can someone give me a clue please?

Jo

Scarlett O'Hara's real name is Katie Scarlett.

I am NOT a Gone with the Wind fan. A friend of mine is. She saw the movie one weekend and after that began calling me Katie Scarlett. She then shortened that to Kate. Kate is kind of close to me real name. Kind of.

Thanks for clarifying that, Skate.

Whoops, I mean Late? Fate? Gate? Date? Mate? Crate? ..... I give up.

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<small>[ November 12, 2002, 03:34 PM: Message edited by: Resilient ]</small>

All GWTW die hards know scarlett real name as well as the fact that she had 3 children-not in the movie-and the Bonnie Blue Butler's name was really Eugenia Victoria...btw her other children's names were Wade Hampton and Ella Lorna...she lost her fourth child after that wicked fall down the stairs...sorry again couldnt resist...no more threadjacks....

Yeah, something like that. LOL!

Fiddle dee dee...what a thread jack!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> It starts with a harassing MM and ends with the # of babies born to Scarlett O'hara-Butler! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> What to do, what to do...will sleep on it. Afterall, tommorrow is another day! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> Sorry, couldn't resist! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Well, I USED to be a huge fan of GWTW, but now I can't bear to watch it....if you know the story, you will know why.

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