Discovery was June 4 and OW was out of town friend of mine. Most of affair was via internet but H and her had several physical meetings. For about a month after discovery, H made sure he was with me every night and did not get on the internet late at night like he used to during the affair. I go to bed early and he much later. Slowly he began using the internet at night but I was monitoring his sites and they were innocent. (either relating to work issues or his hobbies) I stopped monitoring every day and now only look about once a week. I checked this morning and last night he had gone to several porn sites. I know he did this a lot when the affair was going on. He has not contacted OW or has she contacted H, but do you think it is leading to that since he is back at the porn sites??<P>He has been so remorseful and caring since D, I can't believe he would go back to being deceitful. Well, yes I can. I think I can believe ANYTHING now.<P>So, do I confront him about it? I would have to admit I was monitoring his activities. Or do I let it drop and continue to watch and wait?? Need some insight please.....

Sounds like my attitude.....I too can believe ANYTHING now. I got a key logger program that logs in every key stroke made on her PC and she knows I have it installed. Like I told her if she has nothing to hide what does it matter? And I honestly thought it might just deter her from doing something very stupid again in a weak moment. Believe me an ounce of prevention in this case is worth an ocean of tears to cure the wretchedness of infidelity. Just put 'key logger' into your favorite search engine and viola......you will have tons of hits. Good luck.

Hi zombie,<P>I wouldn't necessarily equate his going to porno sites to his getting back with OW. This is a "guy" thing -- we like looking at naked female bodies.<P>Maybe you should monitor his internet usage more closely for awhile. If he's visiting these sites ALOT, then maybe you have something to worry about. Being addicted to porno is not a good thing. But if he's only checking these sites say like once every couple weeks or something like that, I wouldn't even worry about it.<P>--andy

i put winguardian on his pc but i think it made lots of problems.....he crashed after about a week.<P>how do you do a keylogger on just the browser??

I think that you should be worried. My H had an internet affair in Jan. And through our recovery, he realized and admitted to being a sexual addict. I beleive it goes far beyond men liking to look at naked ladies. I beleive it is an issue very deep and very hidden. Confront him lovingly. A good book on that subject is "Out of the Shadows" by Patrick carnes. I am not saying every man that looks at porn is a sexual addict. I am just saying that with the affair and history, it is very probable.