Hello all, I usually post on recovery board but thought that this question would be better of here.

What is this 'fog' term we all use? Do we use it instead of saying 'in love/lust', which is painful to admit?

Is there a post somewhere which explains what it is, what is feels like while in it?

Ok, jmho...My take on the infamous "fog". It's a state of confusion, where the person experience the "fog" can't seem to see the whole picture or where their actions are leading them. It could also be the time where our feelings are overcoming our better sense. We're doing something, saying another, and feeling something completely different.

It is especially true of those WS who are famous fence sitters, wanting one person when dealing with them, then wanting to other when faced to faced with the other. They flip-flop over and over again, can't make a decision one way or the other and keep waiting for one of the love-interests in their lives to make the decision for them.

It's when we start out on one path, without seeing any way to reach our goals, or else the goals change daily. We find ourselves in a "blind alley" wondering how in the world we got there, and unable to figure out a way to either go forward or go back.

Yes, some may well use the "fog theory" instead of facing the idea that the Ws may well know exactly what they are doing and what they want. It can be comforting, even if false. It fits in some situations, doesn't in others.

Hope this helps...but remember...this is only my humble opinion.

This may help:

"oops", is this the fog? New research says "yes"

Also, searches on "alien abdiction" and "moose brain worms" may provide insight. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />