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Did anyone watch Dr. Pihl's show today on the subject of Infidelity. If yes, would you please share your thoughts on the show?

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It doesn't come on in my area until 3pm (4pm MB time <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ). But I'm sure I'll have something to say about it! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> (I usually do <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> ).

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Topie:

Great. Love you hear your views. And tape it if you can. Lot's of interesting items. I missed the first part. Won't spoil your enjoyment by telling you what I saw/heard till you've had a chance to view the show. Strongly encourage it.

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I love Dr Phil!!!
I was so excited about the topic.It was wierd to see the OW's view and even after they married how they could not trust each other.
It was a good show,I wish they would have had more on the subject though...more like what to do after you find out about an affair.When the ws won't leave the affair,wants divorce those subjects.
But it was good to see that after the ws leaves for the op,it's not greener on the other side!!

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I wish I could tape it! And *I* was the one who suggested that very same idea to everyone earlier this week! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> (do as I say and not as I do? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> )

My VCR died earlier this week. So unfortunately, taping it is NOT an option for me. HOWEVER, I'll still watch it at 3pm, and if my kids are being obnoxious and I miss anything, I can simply watch it again when it comes on a different channel at 5pm. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

2 hours and 40 minutes to go! I'm getting anxious! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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At the end of the show, they post an 800 number, which you can call and buy the tape from them. One possibility. I intend to do this as I mised the begining and then it was too late to tape.

And yes, I recall you were the one who alerted us to the show on these boards. I thank you for that.

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I enjoyed the show too. And I agree they should expand it to advise on what to do when an affair is discovered. I think he briefly touched on it in his summing up comments, but it was probably not sufficient. May be if enough people on the MB board call or write to their hotline they might re-visit the subject..

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I've heard of Dr. Phil but not ever watched the show. Could someone tell me what channel it's on so that I could look up the time for my area? Thanks...

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Go to www.drphil.com and scroll for your state and it will give you show time and channel. Good luck and I recommend this particular show..

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I'm going to tape it. I have my VCR set and ready to go. You can let me know if you miss it.

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Is there any chance someone can PLEASE tape it for me. I will, of course, pay for the tape and shipping.

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Contact me Resilient.

<small>[ February 28, 2004, 05:07 PM: Message edited by: Nerlycrzy ]</small>

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Hi Jo,
I'm home today and will plan to tape it. Call me.

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It was a wonderful show. Both relationships they showed were in trouble and those two were in the 5% success rate. Dr. Phil confirmed that only 5% of marriages that start with an affair survive. If these are examples of successful marriages the OW/M would cringe. Yea, they might get their guy, but when he wakes up and faces reality they see that they will always be second.

I've read that a survey was taken about remarrage that stated that spouces were happier with their first spouce than any other. Now there may be exceptions, but I find this to be an interesting finding.

Back to Dr. Phil-One of the women was guilty. Guess she was raised catholic and is worried about being burned in hee if she doen't confess, and the other woman was a manipulative BI#$H. She was like the devil incarnate. Boy he must be happy he married her. Guess the X-wife looks pretty good now, but he is stuck in his own hell.

The fog lifted a little too late.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by new jersey:
Back to Dr. Phil-One of the women was guilty. Guess she was raised catholic and is worried about being burned in hee if she doen't confess, and the other woman was a manipulative BI#$H. She was like the devil incarnate. Boy he must be happy he married her. Guess the X-wife looks pretty good now, but he is stuck in his own hell.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This is killin ME! I wanna feel empathy but it's just not happening. LMAO ....

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The evil incarnate that you are referring to, is actually reminding myself of ME!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I know that I"m the BS... but I've made some terrible choices that are simply stated as being "love busters" on here.... when in reality, I have a lot of deep seeded issues to deal with.

Perhaps I'm being too hard on myself? I'm not sure. I do know that my situation is unique (not on it's own... but different from the majority that post on here) in that I'm dealing with a sex addict, and therefore it wouldn't have mattered what I said or did throughout my M... H still would have strayed, and he would still be unhappy.

I guess "Karen" opened my eyes a bit more. When she talked of being vengeful, and not thinking first of her actions, it may as well have been ME up in that hot seat across from Dr.Phil.

I definitely feel the need to apologize to my H. For MY sake. I still can't change him, and I've always known that... but I CAN still work on me... which is what I've been trying to do for 2 yrs now.

The holding onto the guilt issue... that hits home a lot too. I'm fascinated by human interraction, and the reasons why we do the things we do. And one of those things I find fits me (and many nameless others here on MB), is that we are so easily throwing ourselves into the "woe is me" category. Yes I know, the posts on MB are very one sided (usually), and cannot possibly reflect the WHOLE story. But there's something to be said about being so COMFORTABLE with being in pain. IMO, it's not a good place to be, and I do know that it's hard to get out of it too.

My one wish for Dr.Phil, is for his show to take on a more in depth look at many of the issues being discussed. I know, the show is only 1 hour long.... but it doesn't really TEACH us how to fix the problems. It only just brings the REAL problems to the surface. And then he dances around the "how to fix it" stuff. Don't get me entirely wrong... I adore his show and his outlook in life impresses me.

That's it for now. I may post more later. I'll wait and see if any other responses click for me to do so. (I'm in a 'mood' now... can't you tell? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ).

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Just got done watching the show. It was very good, and was interesting that both of the marriages that started as affairs were having problems. Someone else already mentioned this, but isn't ironic that they have trust issues? Hmmmm, wonder why????

He did touch on how to affair proof your marriage, and the one thing that struck me was when he said "if you've been cheated on, the best revenge is living well". Very good advice, but difficult to do!!

For any other Dr Phil junkies out there---you can sign up on his website and receive an email every week describing the shows for the week. Then you're sure not to miss any shows that are of special interest to you.

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OK folks. So Karen was a manipulative one and now John and Karen seem to be interlocked in a union of deep mistrust and suspicion. Poetic damnation, it sounds like. Gail, on the other hand is carrying a burden of guilt for causing Steven's first marriage to break-up. Even though Gail and Steven have been married a long time, Gail's guilt prevents her from enjoying the new relationship. What an eye-opener!!

Both these marriages resulted from affairs in the first place. They represent a small percentage that are purpotedly successful. But listening to their stories, the marriages hardly seem successful. These are horrible marriages, which are in need of intensive care!! Any one with a different thought or opinion?

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by LogicallyIrrational:
These are horrible marriages, which are in need of intensive care!! Anyone with a different thought or opinion?</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Nope, as I'm too busy LIVING WELL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hee hee .......

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Ditto...living well with my FWH!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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