A couple of weeks ago, my W and I had a talk about ENs. I told her that she hadn't met all my needs either, so she asked me what needs she did not meet. I told her that one of the most important one was appreciation. I was never good enough. She was never happy in the M and it was because I didn't know how to make her happy according to her.

A few days after this conversation I start noticing she's starting to thank me for things. Fast forward to this week. Last few days I made too many LB's but yesterday afternoon I did a wonderful Plan A and was able to talk about my feelings. She even asked me about them.

Today she called me because she needed some information for her car insurance. I gave her the info and then she asked how I was doing. She hasn't done this for a while and she knows I'm going through h*ll right now because she's coming to visit the OM for Thanksgiving weekend and I'm not taking it too well. Anyway, some time later she calls me and leaves me a message where she thanks me for giving her the information and tells me that due to our good credit and driving record, her insurance rate dropped and wants to thank me for it. "I guess that is something we did right in our M," she said referring to the good credit. She thanked me several times during the message.

Skeptic me, suspicious me thinks she's just doing this for her own benefit:

1. That way I will leave her alone (which I'm planning on doing anyway) when she is here for Thanksgiving.
2. There are a couple of major disagreements regarding child support and this may be a way to soften me a bit.

But maybe, just maybe this Plan A is starting to take effect. I am NOT getting my hopes up yet, not until I see a repeated pattern here.

<small>[ November 15, 2002, 05:27 PM: Message edited by: utterlyconfused ]</small>

After she returned from visiting her parents this weekend, last night she went off on me again. She was so cold. geesh!

Does the rollercoaster ever slow down or eventually go away?

<small>[ November 18, 2002, 08:00 AM: Message edited by: utterlyconfused ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by utterlyconfused:
<strong>After she returned from visiting her parents this weekend, last night she went off on me again. She was so cold. geesh!

Does the rollercoaster ever slow down or eventually go away?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This is a ride of 3 seats, you, WW & OM. Anyone of you could stop it. The more confused WW, the crazier the ride is for you & OM. If you are in plan A you should be more worry about WW is not confused and slowing down the ride.

99% she had contact with OM during the weekend.

-rh-

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by redhat:
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99% she had contact with OM during the weekend.

-rh-</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I have noticed this. She warms up to me and after talking to him she's very cold. I have told her this and she always insists it's not true (of course, what else would I expect?). Of course, I have no way of knowing.

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