Well W went to Omaha to visit sister. I'm sure they are out tonight having fun since my wife is now "single".

I remember something she said to me a month ago. She said "I need to find myself. See who I am."

All you BS's what does that really mean. She is independant and owns her own business. She was 20 when we got together and is 27 now and we have a 3 year old daughter. I know I should have done more to keep our bond strong, but I became too complacent in our M. Does she mean that she wants to experience single life again and regain her lost self-esteem?

Do they ever return and want to work on M? I feel like because of me I kept her from the "club scene" and now she wants to live and meet new guys. I really feel like I neglected a beautiful woman and let her down and she is mad I did that.

Tell me your thoughts please.

Alan, do those questions sound like you're focusing on you...or on her and the M? Which do you think at this point is more productive?

Alan you've got to remember that often times what people say and what people actually do are two very different things. Putting a lot of credence in her words without the actions to prove them, only causes you needless and unproductive worry. Actions are what truly count in the end.

My XW said the same thing....it is fogese for:

"I'm madly in love with somebody else, somebody from my past...so F you and I'm going to do whaterver the hell I want. I have no respect for the institution of marriage nor for the responsibility of parenting. Nothing or nobody can stop me!"

<small>[ November 17, 2002, 12:22 PM: Message edited by: catamount82 ]</small>

3 words

WORK ON YOU!

Zoey

Catamount..........you sound bitter! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

But I think your right. She has had that matter of fact way about her lately. She used to be such a caring person who really cherished our M. I know I screwed up, but she knows I had/we had problems but she (in my opinion) is being soooooo selfish and only thinking of herself that she is unwilling to work on saving it. I firmly believe, knowing my W, that if she had an interest in saving marriage that she would be amazed what could happen. Can't believe she would like single life and starting over.........I think it sucks!!!

Waiting patiently......been 11 days NO CONTACT!! RELATE would be proud of me! Speaking of Relate, someone should remove duct tape and feed her! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />