Shared this w/my mopey and "hopeless" WH....and thought others might find it inspirational.

Creating a Positive Attitude by Mark Victor Hansen

Your attitude determines the state of world you live in. It is the foundation for every success and every failure you have had and will have. Your attitude will make you or break you.
Attitude creates the way you feel about people and situations. Your actions are a result of your attitude, which, in turn, creates a reaction from others. So, basically, what you think...you get. It is your attitude toward others and the Universe that determines the resultant attitude toward you. Incorporate a positive, joyful attitude and you'll have positive, joyful results. Put out a bad, negative attitude and you've failed before you begin.

I know it sounds simple, but the truth is...it IS simple!

WHERE DO NEGATIVE ATTITUDES COME FROM IN THE FIRST PLACE?

Negative attitudes come from thinking negative thoughts over and over until they have become a part of your subconscious – they've become habitual, a part of your personality. You may not even realize you have a negative attitude because it's been with you for so long. Once you have a bad attitude, you expect failure and disaster. This expectation turns you into a strong magnet for failure and disaster. Then it becomes a vicious circle. You expect the worst - you get the worst - your negative beliefs are reinforced – you expect the worst – you get...

...Got the picture?

SO, HOW DO WE SHIFT OUR THOUGHTS AND CREATE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE?

It takes work, but creating anything of value takes work. In order to have a new attitude we have to change our subconscious thinking. How do we do this? By analyzing every thought we have until positive thinking becomes habit. You're merely replacing an old habit with a healthy habit, much like replacing exercise for smoking.

You can't just stop being negative – you have to replace those negative thoughts with positive ones.

Some people would say, "But negative situations are a reality. They just show up in every day life."

This is absolutely not true. Situations are a reality, yes. They do show up. It is your ATTITUDE that makes a situation positive or negative. It's time for you to realize that YOU are in control of how you think and feel – no one else on earth has this power unless you give it away. Take control of your attitude, and you take control of your results.

"Your state of mind creates the state of your results."

Mark Victor Hansen

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Mark Victor Hansen, co-author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul Series, has for more than 25 years, uniquely focused on the vital elements of human behavior that most affect our personal and professional lives and has influenced society's top leaders and the general public on a global scale.

Thanks for posting this! It really makes a lot of sense!

It makes sense for us!!!!! But I think my WS would not have the "foggiest clue" as to what it meant. I have been trying to tell him things like that for 3 years, and he looks at me like a deer in headlights and tells me "That Is NOT reality" And I say, oh yes but it is, so after I caught him Oct.28...after the shock, I said, remember when I told you about negative programming of sub-conscious, well geesh....here is Your "NOT reality issue in the flesh. He did not like that and quickly tried justifying it and throwing back on me and my "loopy, metaphysical ideas" that have no meaning in the real world. As I watch him every day leaving to live his "romantic love affair". You have to laugh sometimes at distorted perceptions when one chooses to live in them. BTW, very good post!!!!!

2S,

Great post, copied it for a poster in my bathroom. I also wanted to add, that what you think is real, is real to you. Your perception and reality are one and the same. I saw this demonstrated at school, yesterday. Children can often say it best. S