<small>[ January 17, 2003, 02:55 PM: Message edited by: lifetooshort ]</small>

lifestooshort,

I just wanted to let you know your story touched me. I don't have any ideas right now except to suggest counselling for your partner but maybe he tried that already.

I've got to run but I'll check back in later.

Your story is indeed touching. I empathise for your partner - I'm a conflict avoider too, and get regularly abused by my WW. Nevertheless, I'm still trying - rightly or wrongly, I still have hope and believe in my wife.

It looks to me that the problems lay actually fully and squarely with your partner's ex. She is paying now the price, and your partner rightly quit as the ultimate measure of self-protection. Your partner, being a sensitive person, can only be helped if his ex is helped. He should let her know that she should go and seek treatment. In the mean time, he simply should avoid any contact with his ex. His time is simply not worth it. She is simply not worth a single thought. Maybe someone else can drop off the kids or something, or maybe he can pick them up somewhere?

<small>[ November 25, 2002, 03:15 AM: Message edited by: Nick123 ]</small>

There is a book called "overcoming Guilt" by Vijayadev Yogadendra - it is very good.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Life is just too short to brood and batter. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It is true, best one person finds happiness than both live in despair.

Try this website also:

http://www.lifechallenges.org/door/doorways.html

they have all sorts of stuff.

<small>[ January 17, 2003, 02:57 PM: Message edited by: lifetooshort ]</small>

Another suggestion is for your partner to have one or two more adults with him when he picks up his kids because his xW MAY not want to do her routine in front of a stranger(s) who MAY just not feel shy in telling her off.