She says I meet her emotional needs and generally stay away from her love busters but she still won't make love to me; ever since she rondavoued with her college boyfriend of 17 years past (they had a child and put it up for adoption, split up and four years later I came on the scene and after being told that her baby and its dad are in the past, I married her). I am sexually having a very difficult time due to her not being interested in me.......I am really trying hard to give it more time (it's been one year since I found out about the rondavou and 2 months of counseling with Steve).......how long will this full court press of affection building go on with out any change in her?????? what should I do, any ideas; we have 5 kids: ages 13 to 7: married for 17 years........
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I don't have any advice for you, I wish that I did, but I want you to know that I feel deeply for you and most all of us know exactly how you feel. I will cry for you and your children and I will pray for the restoration of your family. I fear that unless my STBX's heart changes we are definatly done despite people saying that even divorce isn't final, but the part of me that got killed and burried is.

Faithlosthope:

I will intercede for you in prayer for your wish of marital restoration; all my prayers have always been answered in life by Him; and his ways are for the best even though we don't know why until we are finally with him forever in eternity.... Please don't lose hope, ever.....we all must have faith until otherwise told by Him and we will know through prayer......wow is this a cross to carry or what? Thanks for helping me carry mine as truely sad as it is....