Someone please tell me how to plan A and make it stick! i feel like i have to sit on my hands to make it work and my H responds to it but then takes advantage of it as well - an example - H at football game all day and until 8 p.m. Sunday night - H comes home but has to go to parents to pick up clothes he needs, then tells me he is going to stop and have a couple beers on the way back - i plan a as best i can, tell H that i cant stop him from going to bar but that it hurts me that he cant just come home...H responds well, tells me he understands and will get clothes and hurry home. fast forward to 10:00 - no H home, i call him and he's at the bar - hasnt even gone to parents yet. how do you plan A when dealing with that kind of BS?? I am convinced he is still seeing OW; now tonight he has to "do laundry" - mind you we have a washer/dryer, but H wants to do laundry at parents...says i am trying to control him. HELP! what am is supposed to do? its so hard not to let the anger and suspision overtake me!
My story quickly - Me 31, H 32, married 5/02 after dating 5 years, 3 ddays and multiple A's that i found out about after only being married 2 months...think last A is ongoing, but H and I going on belated honeymoon next week!!

how do you plan A when dealing with that kind of BS??
That is exactly how you do Plan A. No one said it was gonna be easy. Also, this is one reason Plan A can (usually) nly be done for around 6 months. A person can only give so much until their taker wants something in return.

Thank you for that advice - you're right...it's only been 2 months and half the time im LBing so i need to check my impatience at the door and give it some time. i get so mad at myself b/c i can see plan a working but then let the images and anger cloud my thinking. since we are going on our belated honeymoon in the midst of all this madness, i figure that will be a great time to REALLY plan A and psych myself up to keep doing it once we get back from "paradise".