Well I'm back from my trip a day early. Nothing much has changed on the home front. WW called and talked to me. She called at 3:30 in the morning because she was scared for her brother. He got in an accident. He is fine but she wanted to talk. OM was away overnight taking tests for the military. She talked to me the next day until OM got back. Then it was back to treating me like crap. She called today and wanted to come get our daughter's furniture and her desk. If I let her take the furniture then I will have nothing for her when she is here. On top of that se told me OM was coming with her to help get the stuff. I can not stand to look at him let alone have to work with him. I think I'm gonna disappear for the night. It is funny how when he left she wanted to talk and see me. Now I feel like I'm back at square one. I have been talking to her less and making it seem like I'm moving on. Her mote wants us to get divorced. I have yet to figure out why. I think my WW toldher a bunch of garbage to justify her affair. Well gotta go I'll check back later.

When are you going to learn not to let her do this to you?

She is not in the least motivated to leave OM and come back to you. You being there at odd hours to listen to her in no way furthers your cause of her coming back and committing to marital reconciliation.

Unless you are a masochist, I would suggest that you stop being her 'girlfriend' and say to her ' Sorry but I do not talk to women in a committed relationship' and hang up on her.

This is a very sick situation and you are doing NOTHING to stop it by telling her that you will always be there for her. She needs to depend on OM 100% and get a taste of life with him and without you in order to appreciate what she has lost.

Hi Wrnglr,

Write your MIL a letter. Indicate that your W (her daughter) is trying to replace you in your daughters life and that you need to warn her in case she tries to replace your MIL with another one. You never know. Of course your W may be besmearing your reputation. So defend it.

As for the OM coming to your home, it is your choice but I would not allow him in my home. If she wants the table or whatever, have the OM buy it. Let him meet those financial needs. You keep what you want. It is your home and not hers to trample.

JMHO,
L.

duplicate post.

<small>[ November 27, 2002, 01:11 AM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

Your WW obviously is not totally satisfied with OM so she contacts you in order to satisfy the EN's that he can't fulfill. Why not let her depend 100% on him for emotional/physical support? Chances are if you did this, she would eventually get sick and tired of OM.

Good luck and God bless/

I have to agree with coffeeman...stop meeting her EN. Also, personally, I wouldn't let her have the furniture, you need it for your DD, too. jmho

Hey everyone kept threatening me with 2x4.......now it's my turn to say that! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Get it ready...........(I've been waiting to say that)

Tell her politely that she is in a relationship and you do not feel comfortable being in this triangle......she will not last with OM if she is still hanging to you this early in the A. So do as I said before.....ignore her.....get new threads....new hairstyle.....go on and make her feel she's not coming with you for the ride!!!!

She'll be eating out of your hand before you know it.