I just wanted to add my Thanksgiving wishes to everyone at MB also! I am spending the holiday with my in-laws in Michigan. In-laws paid for my teenage sons and me to fly in from Tx.

We have spend every year with my H family during Thanksgiving. My H loved coming home to Michigan for Thanksgiving. We have been married 17 years and have been coming to Michigan almost every year for Thanksgiving. H was told he was not invited by his mom. H's mom also told H that she would never accept the OW in her life ever!

It is snowing and my boys are enjoying time with cousins away from the situation. My H has not called and spoken with our sons since we arrived on Saturday.

I started plan B several weeks ago and he was very upset that I refused to have anymore verbal conversations with him!

I hope that not being with us all will clear some of the fog away.

My boys hate the OW (who is married H is living out of state and also has teenagers.) OW showed up at H's apt while sons were there and he refused to allow her in. Sons stated that he drove them home cursing at the traffic trying to get back to his apt and to her who was waiting somewhere for him.

We just went to see the Santa Claus 2 movie and my oldest son was upset. It was upsetting to see that the son's parents were divorced but acting like it was normal and life was great between new dad and old dad (Tim Allen). It sad that so many movies treat divorce like it is no big deal.

I will be praying for everyone here at MB..Take care..Rhona

Hi Rhona,

Yep, the biggest myth in our society today is that somehow kids bounce back from divorce - and don't mind the OP because they oh so self-lessly wish their parents to be happy!!

The truth of the matter is that it devastates children for years, well into adulthood. Kids dont' give a darn about their parent's happiness. They want to be safe and loved.