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This is my first opportunity to get in touch with all of you to let you know what is going on.

Last Sunday (November 24th), I just couldn't take it anymore, and I left for the shelter with my boys.

I cannot disclose where I am, but I can tell all of you that I am very safe. I have excellent resources available to me, and am definately on the priority list for housing (I'm #2 on the list for my #1 choice! woohoo!!!).

My only access to the internet is at the local library, and I can only get here if I can find someone to watch the boys at the shelter (such as one of the other women), so I cannot know when I'll be back on here again.

My primary worker is trying to get babysitting available for me so that I can come to the library, just to come here on MB, as she understands that you folks are my ONLY true support system.

I can hardly wait until I can give a detailed update, however, H had read my last post which said of all of the information I had already gathered, and I must assume that he will look at this too.

So... we are all doing well. The boys have a few other little boys to play with at the shelter - they are already acting like siblings towards each other and fighting over toys!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> And they seem to be adjusting quite well.

I haven't talked to them about their dad, and they (well, Eric) hasn't asked about him either. So I'm leaving it at that, as per the advice from the counsellors.

I guess that's it for now. Hopefully, I will have the opportunity to come back online in the next few days.

Thanks for thinking of me gang... cuz I know you have been! (how? cuz I've been thinking of all of you too.. .and have been dying to get online to update all of you).

Love,

Karen

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Thanks for the update, Karen.

My thoughts remain with you and your children.

Please know we all support you.

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Karen,
Many many many hugs, thoughts, and prayers for you. I wish there was more we could do for you. I'm glad you are keeping us posted when you can.

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My dear Karen,

Glad to hear you are in a safer environment and getting help from others. Please let us know how you are doing and even though we have limitations, how we can help.

Since your H may use this forum to monitor your progress, I will use this as an avenue to encourage him to seek help for himself or learn to live with his decisions. It is a given thing whether anyone wants to recognize it or not. Maybe other WS H's would want to comment. I will share your plight with my H and he may be 'opinated'?!??! LOL!

Karen, you and your family have been in my heart and I will keep praying for your safe settlement. Life is always rough, things can change in an instant but the good thing is that with God's help we can survive.

If you can check your e-mail by Monday, I will try to send you something, ok? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Hugz to you and the boys.
take care,
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I'm very relieved to hear you made it safe and sound.

You're so strong, Karen. So courageous. I know this was hard for you and the boys. But things seem to be looking up with being #2 on the house list. Very good news.

Continue to update us please.

Blessings,
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Karen,

You and your family are in my prayers. I am glad that you are in a safe place and hope that your wait for housing will not be long.

God Bless,

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karen- i have been praying for you all. i will continue to. glad to hear you are safe-if we can help let us know.

i know your wondering-husband has made a turn in the road. he is finally gettin it!! thank you steve harley.

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Karen,

My thoughts and prayers are with you and the boys!!!

I too am glad that you are in safe place and # 2 on the housing list!!!! That is awesome!!!

You have been so very strong thru this and keeping in front of you why it is you are doing this!!! Stay strong!!!! Things will get easier eventually!!!

Update us when you can!!! You have many of our emails and know that you can use them anytime you need as you may still need to vent!!!!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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Karen,

Glad to hear you are OK... I have been wondering about you- let us know if there is anything you need emotionally or special we can do... as far as what we can.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Wish there was somehting more I could do, but I will send prayers.. YOu deserve to be treated good, and you will be by not allowing disrespect in your life.

Hugs, HOney

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Karen,

I'm so happy to hear you're ok. Stay strong and hold on to that faith that things will get better. It will!! And Please!!..If there is ANYTHING we can do to help,,promise to let us know!!

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Hello Topie,

I just saw this post...wow, you sound good although I'm worried for you and your family.

Please keep us posted as often as you can. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

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apologies, havent followed you thread fully. why did you go for the shelter? glad that the kids are more or less OK - must be traumatic neverhteless.

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Nick from London, UK

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Karen,

U have mail.

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Hi Karen....Hugs to you! You are an amazingly strong woman! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Luv,
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Glad you are safe and well. Hugs and prayers w/ you always.

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Topie -

I just saw this. I've been wondering about you. I hope you are still well. You are so strong. Let us know if we can do anything for you.

Praying for you and the boys,
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Hi Topie...wow, you are so strong, dont think i could have ever done that, my heart goes out to you, glad you are safe, and hope things continue to get better for you. God Bless you....A/C0810

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Topie,

I'm sorry to har about your difficulties but I'm glad that you are making the changes that you need. If I recall corerctly, you live somewhere near Hartford. Was this correct?

If this is true then please email me at: "oceangirl06460@yahoo.com". I'd like to come and visit to offer my freindship and support.

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All is still well. Unfortunately, I have not heard about housing yet... so far, I've only been offerred one unit, but it isn't on my list, and it's all electric heating!!!! No Thank you!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I hurt my finger, and am having a terrible time typing, as it's in a splint <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

For those of you whose email addresses I have, I will type out a letter giving more details when I can - probably not for another week (as I want my finger to heal first).

Terrified: I have your phone #, perhaps I can call you on enight this week?

I'll be going to 2 al-anon meetings this week (tonight and on Thursday night), and am looking forward to them.

Thanks for the thoughts and prayers folks.... I'm feeling them! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Orchid: I got the email, but only b/c H forwarded it to: topie25@hotmail.com I cannot give you an address right now... but I will inquire about it at the shelter office and let you know.

Kily: I'm in London, Ontario... but thanks anyways! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I'm off now. I can't stand typing with only one hand. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Karen

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