Ok I know your thinking I had a huge fight with my WW. well I didn't. WW tells me today she would like to go out with me and a friend of mine Monday night. Sh tells OM that she is going with a girlfriend. OM does not believe her and throws a big fit. They have a huge fight and he mumbles something about taking care of me. She called me right away to warn me he might show up and do something stupid. I take all the nessecary precations. She hangs up with me when he returns. Thier fight contunies. He leaves again and she calls me again. She says she may need me to come get her. She said he is being a real jerk. He comes back with food and she has to let me go. Says she will call me back and let me know how she is. I told her if anything happens call 911 first. I'm really scared right now. I swear if he lays a hand on her........... I've known this guy longer than she has and he does have a violent side. I'm just glad I have our daughter. MY WW is seeig all the things I told her about OM are true. By the way when he found out about the ring I gave her he blew a gasket. That is what started this whole ordeal. I think my WW wants to come home but is scared of OM. Well it's time for bed. I don;t think I'll sleep much tonight.

Sounds good to me. Let her see what she got herself in to. Take all the precautions.

Good Luck

She also found out heis a racist and she hates ignorance like that

wrngler, Your WW is putting you in a dangerous position and herself. I want to ask you something, does she want you and the OM to fight over her? I ask this because she is calling you knowing it will add fuel to the fire, she is living with OM correct? If she is truly scared wouldn't she call the police, especially since OM is threatening you? If he knows she is calling you, he will take his spite out on YOU more than her because that would hurt her more, do you understand that? If she is with this OM, why go out with you and a friend if he is in this "angry" state? I'm confused, I read your posts and you posted on mine to read this one. In my case as you know my WS's mental state, not only do I have concern for him doing something stupid to sabatoge our home or hurt one of the pets, (I pray he's not that "out there") BUT, I have MOW's BS having people calling and threatening the house, but can not prove anything so when WS moves out totally and we change the locks I will get another caller ID and monitor calls. But I am confused about your WW, I am hoping she is not one who likes to get caught up in the "drama" of A's and or playing you and OM for something emotionally lacking in her right now, she seems to be feeding off drama of this, and I mean no disrespect and please clarify if I'm coming from the wrong angle on this one. I'm glad you have your D and that you are being the reponsible one at this time. But you will have to explain the "going out with her and your friend" I'm at a loss there.

I think you need to read and then reread and then reread Neesha's letter message to you. You are only 24 and it is pretty clear that your wife is playing you. She moves in with the OM who is a racist and has a violent temper and continues to do things by putting your health at risk. She makes it known to him you gave her a ring and she keeps calling you. It seems clear she wants both of you to fight over her. She seems like a very selfish and sick person. Why do you wish to settle for this? Your wife seems to wish to go to the person who can give her the most.
You give her a new ring while she tells you she wishes the OM would give her the ring while she has nice hickeys on her neck from living with and having sex with this man? Your life will be nothing but hell if you stay with her. She has put your life possible at great risk and calls you to warn you. Look at your life right now because this is your future. Would you really wish to have your daughter raised by this morally corrupt woman? I am afraid that you are in a fog. If you get hurt then who takes care of your daughter?
Wouldn't it be nice in the future if you were to be involved with a woman who can respect, love and believe in a committment to another person and a marriage? You have a wife who dumped you and your daughter to be with an unemployed, violent tempered racist who enjoys giving hickeys to her. She continuously baits him by trying to make him jealous over you. How can you be so blind? You are only 24. I guess George Bernard Shaw was correct when he said youth is wasted on the young. Good luck because you are going to need it for the rest of your life. It is sad that you think you deserve so little in your life.