The good news is my H has mentioned that he might like to move back in. His misses the house, our son, wants to be involved with the birth of our new child and finally said he'd like us to work things out together.
D Day was 8-14-02. He moved to his own apt. 9-1-02 and continued the A. I've been doing a good plan A over the last month or so and he has been showing more interest in me, our 2 yo son and my pregnancy (due in Jan - like the name suggests). I told him that I'd love for him to come back but that I wanted him to "be sure he is ready because I couldn't handle his leaving twice" (I haven't spoken a word about the A or the OW for over a month - and I have no idea of the current status). Last night I spelled it out and said "I'd love you to come back but I'd need you to have no contact with OW." He said, "you told me that three times"(I hadn't - only once)and then he said something to the effect of "I understand, of course, I'm not unreasonable."
How do I proceed? I don't want to ruin the effects of my recent Plan A or spoil this opportunity. But how can I make sure that he will have no contact with OW without asking a lot of questions, setting conditions, snooping, etc. He clearly has no interest in talking about the A. We are in MC but only discuss communication styles, past problems, ways to handle, etc. We haven't talked about the Affair. Also, he has lied to me so much over the past few months - how do I trust him?
I had finally become somewhat at ease with living alone and had made plans for having the baby without his help - now he wants to be involved.
This is a much nicer problem than I had a month ago when I thought he was gone forever, but I was to tread lightly and not mess this up. Any help or suggestions??
