but I keep a clean house. We are finally having a talk tonight and he wants me to agree to do a bunch of projects around the house. In addition to housekeeping, paying bills, running two businesses and I have a chronic pain condition. Problem is his LB. Angry Outbursts, calling me terrible names, neglecting me. If I do all this work I don't think he will lay off me. Then he;ll complain about me not going to work-out, what I eat, etc. I am not real motivated to start refinishing window trim, etc and all these projects he wants done.

Should I do Plan A? Should I ask him to stop Love Busting while I do these and then stop if he continues to verblly abuse me? We have been just co-existing in same house for weeks, months. With just 3-4 days of "normalcy" sprinkled in occassionaly to "hook" me and give me hope.

Should I show him Love Buster questionaire? What do yo think I should do? I've read Dr. Harleys books and my H refuses to read them.

Thanks

he sounds very similar to my H. if he refuses to read the books it's very possible he will refuse the questionnaires. you should atleast ask him, right? there's no harm in that is there?