Ok BO & others.,

After the havoc you tried to create on JFO, you are now here sharing your thoughts?!?!?!? Hm.......

Just thought the rest of the board would like to know that BO's thread has been closed. That in itself is not a totally bad thing (though it is close) but BO's continued need to inflict others with her thoughts (OW's destructive POV) should not go unnoticed.

Of course, this is a place to say what you want and mean what you say, so I am not telling people NOT to respond to BO but just be careful and understand where she is really coming from.

FYI, on JFO she originally posted as the BS then switched to the OW.

Why do I even bother to post this thread? Because it hurts to see her continue to promote what has already brought visible pain to most of the group here......namely, the A and all it's side effects.

Here is a sample of BO's post capabilities:

Where BO tries to pretend she is the BS

BO's admission she is the OW

For those posting to BO on JFO This one contains a 'sales pitch from BO for Gory B. Followed by a rebuttal of what is actually allowed at Gory B. So much for freedom of 'expression'.

BO's colorful description of the BS I think some of the Gory B lingo has slipped out of BO's mouth. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Back right at 'ya BO! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Notice the difference between this OW and those who come here with a better attitude. Is this post meant to antagonize poor BO and her kind? It could. The primary intent was to let all know what the rest have already witnessed on the other site. Then maybe you all will be able to deal with her responses better.

Not all her responses start out as bad info, it usually starts out sounding as if she is caring, like her first thread asking for help, but in the end her true colors come out, yet they were there all the time.

JMHO,
L.

<small>[ December 07, 2002, 08:02 PM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

I have not read this OW's posts until now. She sounds lIke my H's OW!!!!! The age and the situation is different so I know it isn't her but it is amazing. The OW told me that she had helped my marriage as well. I laughed.
It is an encouragement to see the FWS's who come here with a sincere desire to rebuild and to find help to work on the relationship and are truly seeking advice in a positive light. It is also a help to the BS's when they come here in a sincere manner.It is easy to see the difference in those who truly want help and those who are here to cause trouble or to find a way to try to justify the terrible choice they have made.
This woman will have a very rude and devastating awakening one day. May God show His grace and mercy upon her when it happens. She will need it! I have met her type. They might be pretty on the outside but the inside is vile,dirty,rotten and full of pain. Anger is pain turned inward.
This will help me to remember how ugly the anger looks and what it can turn you into if allowed to stay.
Thanks for posting this Orchid. It will also make me more cautious about what I post.I would never want the

<small>[ January 27, 2003, 10:04 PM: Message edited by: kings kid ]</small>

Patience Orchid,

It takes a little while to ban a member.
The machinery has begun to do so for boilingover.

OneGoing.

<small>[ December 07, 2002, 10:32 PM: Message edited by: OneGoing ]</small>

Good to hear from you Kings kid.

OneGoing, Ok I will try for more patience. When I saw BO posting to a few of the dad BS' here and some of her statements......well my good 'ol mom mode just took right over!

Looks like she aimed at me and a few others overthere. Well she wouldn't be the first nor the last.

H saw me making this thread and I read him some of BO's post. Then showed him the one where she said she was aiming her stuff at certain ones. She said something like out to get our H's and she could see why they went and had an A?

Anyway, it got him so angry he wanted to post a reply. I told him he could do what he wanted. He looked a bit shocked but then again, PBR shows similar colors herself, so maybe he is surprised there is more than 1 PBR out there!!! LOL!!

L.

<small>[ December 08, 2002, 12:41 AM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

Gee Orchid, when I read that post, I was appalled, but I thought what a post for WS's out of the fog to read to remeber what type of person they were in the fog over. Then you posted about your H response to reading it and I think it really does work! I bet that wasn't the kind of assistance the poster was hoping to provide.

For the record I'm engaged and never pretended to be married and I've always found MB to be accepting of me. I am pro-marriage, that's why I'm posting at a site called Marriage Builders.

I missed the fun I see!!! Geesh, when I read some of what I missed, I thought: "THANK GOD I did" Glad it seems over. It is over right??

WtW,

Good to hear from you. How are you doing?

Well as for this 'warning' thread, that is all it was meant to be. See last year when I was still a newbie, this kind of stuff happened.

I watched while many a seasoned MB told us to stay away. The adrenaline was running high and so many newer MBers thought they need to share with OWs who came to hurt, not learn.

I learned by watching how to spot those who may not be here for sincere reasons. While not being judgemental, being cautious was important.

I saw this poster take aim at a select group and noticed a pattern. It raised a few red flags and I just wanted others to be on their guard.

MB is not just for BS. All backgrounds are welcomed here but the level that those kind of OPs take it is not healthy nor safe. So I sent out this warning thread.

It is much better to spend what precious time we have helping those who need it instead of giving attention to those who want to promote their selfish interests.

L.

just a little update, from her closed post, it seems that our friend boilingover may not even be an other woman but a student in a montreal college. she could be a worker there but i'd bet based on her posts that she's a kid looking for cheap thrills at your expense. waste no more time on her, and let's all spend our thoughts on those here who could use them!

Thank goodness I saw this post. BO has been in my thread, "my world just fell apart" and I didn't know what to think. I haven't read her old post yet but I'll be doing some reading. Thanks.
CD