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<small>[ January 07, 2003, 04:26 AM: Message edited by: Baby Blue ]</small>
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You're normal!!! Completely! You're just scared and majorly triggered. You want to accept his offers of love, you want to believe them all and take them in and feel good and loved...but you're scared to let go only to be rejected and hurt again. Enjoy what you can about your birthday this year. And don't worry, it DOES get better. Christmas last year was happy, but still tenderly painful. Christmas just one year later is fantastic! We DO HEAL!!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!
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<small>[ January 07, 2003, 04:27 AM: Message edited by: Baby Blue ]</small>
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Baby, even if your marriage doesn't survive for whatever reasons...things will STILL get better. When I finally quit grieving the marriage and started living life with some hope and faith that each day would be a little better, things really DID get better. And the marriage actually came back together!! The better I felt the clearer I got!
I know you want to keep your marriage, and we all certainly hope for that for you...but if it doesn't work out you'll STILL BE OK!!!
((((BABY BLUE))))
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Oh, Baby - Happy Belated, first of all.
Secondly - HOW SWEET!!! I actually had tears in my eyes picturing your H writing down these thoughts, tearing or cutting (?) them up and then hiding them for you to see!!!! How totally awesome. That is a wonderful birthday present and you should feel cherished.
However, your other thoughts are totally normal too. I just hope you were able to express the cherished part to your H and keep your insecurities private for now. I know my H would think it a real bummer to know how insecure I feel 24/7. I only let him know about 24/4!!!!
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Baby, happy belated. Also, I know that would be a catch-22 for you because of it triggering a ache and pain, normal as it is, you are justified because it runs deep, it was not a simple flesh wound, it cut you to your core. Also, I want to say that I think he did a fantastic job with the list and that was a very intimate and loving gesture, I had to close my eyes and think, how I miss those times when WS (before he went fogbourne) use to do those things. Even though it made me ache for what was, it made me so happy for you!!!!! WOO WOO for Baby Blue. Take Care and tell him to keep up the good work!!!
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Happy Belated Birthday Baby Blue {{{{HUG}}}} Just thinking of the thought and love that went into your H's actions makes me mushy... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> and want to show my H this thread. I understand how painful a trigger it must be for you as it is a very special day....your birthday.I read somewhere in MB that a positive step is to reclaim this special day as YOURS and your H's. Looks like he's trying very hard to make it special just for that "SEXY SEXY" woman in his life...YOU
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<small>[ January 07, 2003, 04:27 AM: Message edited by: Baby Blue ]</small>
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