Well, just when I thought I finally had faced the fact that I was going to move on with my life, he starts with his fence riding. Sometimes I think that can be the most frustrating part of this whole mess. We spoke on the phone Sat, Sun, Mon and Tues. Remember he left on Sat. Once it was that he was just waiting to file for divorce, then another night it was I have alot of issues about me that I need to work out before we can ever work on our M. I went to his commander and told about the A. I decided I wanted to truth out, but not to ruin his career. It's already tarnished for the rest of the time we are in Germany anyways. When I saw him that day (Tues), he looked awful. I had never seen him look as rough as he did. His commander said he can only allow him to live in temp quarters for 30 days ( military BS) and that we needed to find some sort of solution for this. My H told me that he wanted to go see the MC that day and he did. He called me later that night and said that basically he felt like he had been told to do the right thing, but he didn't know what the right thing to do was. So, he said he needed 1 week to himself to sort out his thoughts and feelings. I was very supportive of this and told him that I will stand by him and be there if he needs me. He said he was angry about everything that happened with his commander, but not necessarily at me because he understood why I did it. I'm trying not to take this personally and I think with time he will get over it. I kind of feel like it was a major LB, but at the same time the A needed to be completed opened up to the light of day. His commander gave him a "lawful order" not to contact the OW (she's military too). My H said he had already decided to stop contact. I'm trying not to hold me breath, because I think that will make it hurt all the more if the results aren't good in a week. I'm not really even sure what he is "deciding" during this time. I guess because I really thought he had already decided. I've already told myself that if he decides he wants to work on the M that I'm not letting him come back (unless I'm forced too) until I see an effort being made on his part. I feel like I've made my effort, now it's his turn. Any words of wisdom to help me through this next week. It really sucks because my b-day is on Friday too. And it looks like it will be a Xmas for just me and the dogs as I'm not going home and all my family is in the states and most of my friends are going home to be with their families. But, I'm strong and somehow, someway I'll survive.