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I dont know where to start. Dday early march, i did plan-A until 4/2 and separtd plan -A until late September. I filed for divorce late september as I felt I tried everything I poss could to save the M. Two weeks after I filed, I met someone...
fast forward to now... oh ****, Im a mess...
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LA:
First. We love you as you are. We ALL make mistakes, and maybe you've made one of your own, and maybe you haven't. Could you give us a little more info, so we could try to help you out in this current sitch?
All my best!
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LAN,
Why are you a mess? It is true you should have waited until the divorce is final to start something new. But, last we heard from you, you were considering divorce (apparently now filed), your WW was in the middle of affair with OM#2 and perhaps OM#1 was still in the picture.
I take it your BIL's conversation with your WW didn't help.
So fill us in on the missing months and where things stand.
God Bless,
JL
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I am screwing up royally. I am familiar with MB so I should have known better. Now I brought in someone who is sweet & innocent into my messy world.
1. I did not put up my guards in entering a new friendship.
2. I did everything too fast.
Now my WW is p-Aing me and I have someone in the wings who is now emotionally caught up.
In talking to Redhat, I now know I have to put everything on the table and prac. radical honesty.
When I filed, emotionally, I given up on the M. I know I should have waiting to begin a new R. It all happened so quick & so fast.
Yes I know, now I am the one in the fog.
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LaN,
Like I said it is not what is the mistake ? but what are u goin to do to fix it ?. The biggest issues w/ fog is the atrraction of continuing at present course. Time to be a true MB'er. Good luck on your talk with your W ... be gentle.
-rh-
NB: ... You have to come clean, many MB'er could give their 2¢ ... also for newbie they could lock up their undie, scared to death ... Pls list more detail then list what you are going to do ...
<small>[ December 16, 2002, 06:13 PM: Message edited by: redhat ]</small>
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r.h.
2 things i won't do for sure:
1. cake eat
2. sit on the fence.
That i know better...
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