To all of the current/former fence sitters, what made you get off the fence? I apologize in advance for my rambling but I am not of sound mind. My W and I have been in counseling for 2 ½ months and have come to a cross roads. Our counselor told us yesterday that we had come as far as we can in what he called “stage one”. In order to progress any further my W has to “decide/commit” if she wants to remain in the marriage. This may sound selfish but I think it is so unfair that she has the power to affect my life and the life our child when we have absolutely no say, but that is another issue. Until we are both committed to making the M work no further progress can be made.
She seems to have no regard for my feelings, and continues contact with the OM (lying to my face when I ask her about it, she even has the nerve to get angry and defensive). This person that I am living with is not my W. My W would never lie, yet this person does it so easily, she would never cheat, yet this person does it willingly, she would never do anything to hurt me this badly, but this person continues to twist the knife that has been thrust into my heart. We recently had her cell phone number changed but not more than a week later she called him to give him the new number! I don’t know what to do anymore! I guess that I have just about given up all hope, if she wants to pursue her lusts then so be it, may she reap what she sows, and the innocent (my son and I) will be punished with the rest.
I guess my questions for the fence sitters are; what made you realize/care about the pain that you were inflicting on your S? What was it that made you decide to get off the fence? As the BS is there anything I should be doing besides plan A? I cannot initiate Plan B because my W is pregnant (yes, it is mine) and I don't want to miss anything related to the pregnancy/birth.
