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Our 12th anniversay is coming up right after Christmas. Last year is when all of this was going on so it won't be a good reminder. However, my counselor says that we should notact like it's not our anniversary and that I should get him a card and write something in it.
Well we aren't in recovery yet or anything, so I'm at a loss for what I put in it. I am changing every day but I don't want to put all of that in it....it might push him farther away.
Any help could be appreciated.
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How about "I just wanted to tell you that I’m so glad that we are able to celebrate 12 years together. I’m so sorry for hurting you and I want you to know that I’m committed to rebuilding our marriage together."
Semper Fi,
RIF90
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Dear Rebuilding in Faith,
that sounds really good, however, I'm nervous about using the word "celebrate". He feels there is nothing to celebrate. I already asked him if he wants to go do dinner. He said "there's no reason".
The other part sounds great. I'll think on the celebrate part. Thank you for your response.
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Ok... How about "I'm so glad that we've spent 12 years together and I'm even more excited about spending the next 12 years together with YOU..." Anniversaries are hard... it's OK to say your sorry about the past, but try to keep your message focused on the future. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Good Luck! RIF90
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RIF90,
Thank you so much for your help. I think it sounds good! No matter what I write I am going to be nervous. It's 10 days away and I'm already nervous.
Pray for me.
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Hi LWH,
I'll be praying for you and your H!
We celebrated our 16th wedding anniversary this past Monday... I had some triggers and thoughts, but put them behind me and just enjoyed the fact that we were still together as a family.
Semper Fi,
RIF90
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