what is the one top material thing you want for christmas?
I'll start by saying I want my hubby to go out of character and buy me lingerie.
what about everyone else?

Hi FTB,

For Christmas I don't want anything material.

I am happy just enjoying the time with my children.

If I had one gift that I could ask for that was non-materialistic, it would be the gift of forgiveness from the man that I hurt so deeply.

Hi Fool,

This year I am not asking for any material things. I just couldn't bring myself to make a list... to me it feels fake when what I really want is my H to tell me he loves me.

Despite the possibility of setting myself up for a big disappointment, that is what I told H I want for Christmas. I gave him an early card which says it beautifully. He is skeptical and says it is a "trap" - that I will be sitting there on Christmas day with an attitude if he doesn't get me presents.

He really doesn't get it yet... that what would mean most to me is him expressing how he feels about me NOW. All I have in my head are the bad things he said to me in his post D-day fog. He has been very good in recovery (actions) and I have no doubt that we are healing from his A, but he doesn't realize the power of words and how much I really need to hear them from him.

No trip to the mall on Christmas Eve this year to buy my favorite perfume (which was an annual joke). I know he may not be comfortable with expressing himself and gets embarassed when speaking about such "mushy" things. I just want him to really put MY needs ahead of his own, but I don't think he will.

Material things that collect dust around the house are just not what I need this year.

Merry Christmas.
Shelle

There are material things that I would like to have but none of them really mean anything. If I had to pick one though it would probably be a warm sweater to keep my heart warm on my angry days so that I wouldn't get any cold-hearted thoughts.
The only thing that will have any meaning to me this year is for my husband to clean with me about everything and honor my wish for him to sever all contact with his OW (oh I mean, his "just a friend")

Really there is nothing material I want for Christmas. On the other hand I hope my kids have a great Christmas and that my wife has the best Christmas ever <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> If it's not the best ever then I wish her some happiness and healing. OK I've thought of something material I would like and since I want it I'm going to want a lot of it. I would really like 10 heartfelt hugs and kisses from my wife. Either all that day or in a coupon book so I could use them any time I wanted them. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

The top thing on my Christmas list? A place to start over and make new memories in. Our memories. Where our dogs could really run around and bark without our neighbors getting ticked off, and where our children could play. Where we could be close to family, but far enough away to make a fresh start without the FOM (and more specifically, his nutty BS... not that all BS's are nutty, I'm certain they are not, but she's really done some doozies) giving us grief and interfering with our lives. A new house on 5 acres with horse stables, a three bay garage/workshop (with another two car garage attached to the house), an inground pool with beautiful waterfall, fencing already up and two amazing horses... already found the it, of course, (they're leaving the horses), already have the financing... just have to offload the house I have now and get H to accept that job. Let's hope Santa has a buyer in his Christmas sack!!

<small>[ December 18, 2002, 12:15 PM: Message edited by: TheStorm ]</small>

interesting thread....
the only thing materialistic i want is a piece of paper. my wh finally agreed to write a nc letter and send it to ow last saturday. i have asked him to complete it this weekend. funny how a little piece of paper can mean the world to me.
i hope my wish comes true...
and here's to wishing all our prayers are answered.

ps. on a side note: if i do get that wish, we might just rush out to those boxing day sales and pick up a digital camera... funny how in our miserable state pre-d-day there are not many pictures of us as we journey through life together. i intend to correct that! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ December 18, 2002, 01:08 PM: Message edited by: maplesirup ]</small>

Well....that my WS would buy a red nose that glowed and it would lead him outta the fog. Stupid, yes I know, but it seems to make as much sense to me as his "foggishness behavior". If he can be that gone, maybe it takes something that simple to put it back in perspective.

A new SUV to replace our minivan where the A occurred!

A hot tub so we can soak up our own new memories!!

A new coat so I don't look a dowdy housewife/mother/old woman.

A trip somewhere so that my toes can wiggle in the sand.