Hollywood, for the most part, glorifies EMA. Is there, however, a good movie that presents them as they really are, with all the hurt and pain and consequences?

What is your opinion as to which movie comes closest to reality?

havent been able to watch any yet, still to painfull. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

yes there was it was called I think Replacing Dad
father was a principle and was having an affair with one of the teachers. Not sure what he told the wife but he led her to believe that it (the affair) just happened and that he needed time to think so he moved out but he was coming back.. later she finds out than it been going on longer than he told her they divorced exh and gf moved in
together on a house boat exwife went on with her life started to see a new Dr. that moved into town but the like in real life the ex rewrote history had the oldest son upset because he the son derailed the fathers plans when the wife became pregnant it had everything in that is talked about on this site.

Another one has Shelly Hack and Jack Wagner in it he marries three different women and his 1st wife finds out and does same major $$ damage.

One with Connie Sellica (sp?) where her H is a serial cheater.

Lisa Remmi and her real life hubby where he is a sex addict.

PBS movie called The Polictian's Wife alongs the lines of beware of a bestrayed woman with connections.

but as you see these are all tv movies that do not glamorize affairs but shows the real damage that it does.

Ps There is a Jon Bonjovi movie out there two where he plays an actor doing a play in England
the playwrite is having ab affair with one of his actresses and he hires Jon' character to seduce his wife into a divorce it goes along the way of becareful of what you wish for

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by nikko:
<strong>havent been able to watch any yet, still to painfull. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I know exactly what you mean. Even a sex scene bothers me and I switch the channel (movies in my head start playing).

who needs movies for the real thing.we've all lived it.it seems like every time i turn on the tv theres something about infidelity.movies,talk shows,news....its sad.but what really bothers me is of all the movies i have seen 95% of them are about the man cheating.very few deal with a woman cheating.however it seems that alot more women are cheating these days.so where are those movies?
i have seen 2 movies where the woman cheats.guess what ..the husband was an abusive,drunk.the affair was about her finding a way out.sometimes that is the case but i think most of the time the ww really has a good man at home.the same with men.they really do have a good woman at home.

even the movies have the same thoery as me...if the man cheats its his fault,if the woman cheats ,.....its still the mans fault.

Yes, there was a great movie in the 90's called "Damage" that showed the destruction to family, career, finances, and reputation. It is hard to watch, but is accurate, even in the end where the WS cannot escape the facination with his paramour, even though all arouond him screams the ruin of all he loved. It halped me to see the reality of it all.

how about "Fatal Attraction"! what consequences can top that???

Slightly off topic, but I quite like Kramer vs Kramer with Dustin Hoffman, whose wife suddenly says that she wants to go off to discover herself or whatever.... left him & son alone to struggle. Which led son & father to bond and to somehow make life work... only then for mother to return and announce: hey, I've found myself, and by the way, can I have my son back now? which leads to a vicious battle in court which leaves everyone destroyed.... not a happy end, not my favourite outcome, but the film *is* deep and shows the whole story well from a child's point of view.

UC-

One that I would recommend would be "Lantana". I thought this was a great movie on several different levels.

Quite a few varied responses. If you watched any of these movies during or after your A situation how did you handle it? Were you able to handle it?

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by rjd:
<strong>Yes, there was a great movie in the 90's called "Damage" that showed the destruction to family, career, finances, and reputation. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Is this the one directed by Louis Malle with Jeremy Irons and Juliette Binoche?

You couldn't pay me to watch it.

MTB

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by sunrise1:
<strong>how about "Fatal Attraction"! what consequences can top that???</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">When this movie came out, it made me think about the truth that beneath each person's exterior there is a lot we don't know. I was still single when it came out and it changed the way I saw women I dated. I was always on the look out, if you will.

With my W's affair, sometimes I don't feel at ease wondering what kind of person the OM is. Months ago, I expressed this to my W. According to her, I am paranoid and exaggerating because he's such a great guy, sweet and lot of bullsh*t.

Interesting how movies remain in our psyche for years to come.

A good movie that shows the consequences of poor decisions is UNFAITHFUL with Richard Gere and Diane Lane.

Powerful

rlyhurtin, I just saw "Unfaithful" last weekend. The movie really hit home with the me in regards to my h's behavior prior to D-D, the phone calls, late nights at work, and all the other lies he told. I felt just like Richard Gere when I found out, sick to my stomach with the room spinning around. My h and MOW are out in the open with the A and feel justified by their relationship since it is true love. The whole time I watch the movie I kept thinking why the woman was having this A when she had Richard Gere at home!!!

Lifetime is running top 25 movies of 2002 ... 99% involves infedelity. Some of them are good ... -rh-

RRS-

The reason she did and I think the movie portrayed it very well, is that she was BORED. Do you remember all those senes at the beginning of the movie where she is taking care of her boy and to some extent her husband. Her boredom lead to SELFISHNESS

I will second LANTANA it is a very subtle and sympathetic portraal of the subject of betrayal .It provokes thought without giving all the answers

One weekend when H was visting home we and the kids went to see "Count of Monte Cristo" In it the Counts supposed best friend betrays him, steals his fiance, marries her. When the Count returns there is a scene where the Wife (finance) confronts the best friend (her H) with his constant infidelity, and he spouts some foggese nonsense about the reasons for it. I just about died in my seat. I kept wondering what my H was thinking. One good thing it was a happy ending. The best friend was a real scoundrel and got it in the end.

As to the men/women cheating thing. I know quite a few women who have destroyed their families with A's. It goes both ways. Their H's did everything they could to save the M's. So I think we are all in the same boat. Let's just hope it isn't the Titanic.

Sharon

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I just finished watching Unfaithful and it gave me insight into my behavior as the BS. I just cannot believe some of the things I did -- hauling my children through my H's parking lot looking for OW's car, going to her house and yelling "Sophia .... is a whore at 11 PM" on D-day, calling her at work and home, telling her 4 year old Mommy is a whore.... Like the BS in Unfaithful, I had clues that I should not trust because it was obvious there was lying going on. Unlike the BS in Unfaithful, I made noise but did nothing effective to bring things into the open --until I called Harley's radio program and he had me call and tell what I knew to OW's H. OW's H took it all in -- including that I called Sophia one minute after my H broke my arm because we were arguing about her -- and he got the truth from her.