WH got remarried, even though the D was not final and will not be final until I pay the last $750.00, we both take the parenting class, we appear before the judge, AND the 30 days of waiting is up.
My attorney spoke with WH about this, and warned him of consequences. Even the OW found out from my attorney several days before the wedding was to take place.
Wonder how WH wormed, or rather charmed, his way out of that one?
Anyway, I had to tell my children, who of course were still holding out hope for WH and I to get back together. They were in shock, but are going to be okay, thanks to many friends and family, and a relationship with the Father.
How is everyone else doing over the holidays?
KK I'm going to be just great!!!!

Hi KK,

How can this marriage be legal and valid if the M with you is not final? Correct me if I am wrong, I would think this means they are not married. If this is so, this fog must be so dense that it will take alot to get through it.

Sue,
You are right! It is not legal, and is in fact a felony in TX. There is no way i'm getting through his fog....he is too far gone from me. I'm getting on with my life, and the lives of my 3 precious children, and we will heal on our own.
Even my attorney told him he couldn't do it, but OW wanted to go through with it, and they did.
Another TX attorney told me they don't check for that divorce stuff when handing out marriage licenses!!! Unbelievable!!!
Thanks for the reply, Sue.
KK

kk2002,

What a mind boggling turn of events! What is going to happen come tax season? Are you legally in the clear as far as that goes?

Luki,
I have no idea what will happen as far as the taxes go. WH has all the info for 2001, and still hasn't filed!!!!!! My accountant said there is an "innocent spouse" rule that should protect me.
Yes, it is definitely an interesting turn of events, anyone ever heard of a fog this deep????there is NO reaching into it

Are you into counseling yet, Luki? Wish I had more words of advice for you. I will say to everyone that I can understand how the plan A, no lb'ing etc. is to protect the betrayed spouse, to protect our feelings. The plan A did NOT change my spouse....i'm not sure anyhting can change them once they are on the path to destruction....unless it is a miracle by God.
KK

KK,

That fog sounds mighty thick as well as his brain right now. I am glad that you are doing well and taking care of yourself under the care of the Father.

D.

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kk2002,

We are in counseling now but it is too early to tell. Next month will be critical I think. Thanks for the concern.

I'll try respond your other question about the $750 here. I would tell him to pay it seeing how he is in such a rush to move on. What do you have to lose? Anything?

I would seek advice on how to be sure that you are in the clear on the tax issue. That sounds like a mess waiting to happen. Find out about the "innocent spouse" rule in detail.

Technically there is still a marriage and therefore it directly affects how you file. I don't mean to stress you out. You're probably OK, but it's nice to make sure.

Take care.

KK2002 - Wow you sound great considering what is going on !! He definately sounds like he has lost it and she is obviously not that bright either to have married a married man.... And as for the 750.00 I would ask him to pay it because from where I am looking you are in no rush and he obviously is a little behind time - and in need of a quick divorce... And about the taxes - are you sure he didn't file without you and forge your name?? I mean does he have your w2 and stuff ?? Do you two own a house together? Would you have been getting money back that he may have gotten and not given to you?? So now on top of being a bigamist - he is also striving to be a tax evader - you I am sure am going to be much better off without the man this one has become... check into the tax thing - you don't want to get yourself into trouble and make him pay.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Will get through this, and M.A.W.,
Thanks for your kind replies! Yes, God is seeing me through this, and I am doing a lot better now than I was back in Aug. and Sept. I'm really thinking of asking WH to pay the last $750. You're right , i'm in no hurry, except for closure. I will let you know how it goes.
God bless you all.
KK

Hi Kk,

I am on my way to work again but wanted to see how you were doing. Sorry to hear about all the added mess......

As for the $750.00....let's put this in the foggy WS (dumb remarried not even Xws yet) perspective...... (is there such a thing?!?!? - LOL! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> )....... ok, so tell him look you owe me the $750.00 if it delays any longer than ___ days, it will go up to the next notch (don't tell him what that notch is)...... he will complain and then just say, ok up it is (again don't tell him how much)...... see KK, don't go down in what is owed to you, go up. So goes with the rest of your life, don't go down, go up. I am not talking only about $$, your respect, quality of life, things within your control. Move it up!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

PS: IMHO, the next ' $$ notch' s/b around $1K...... doesn't that look better? Knock it off to the A 'interest' charges...... I mean really, isn't being illegally married to an OW bimbo worth an extra $250????

When the WS was hard for $$ in our sitch, OW offered to give him $$..... at first I refused to take anything from her, then I said why not??? So I told him $1 mil, then $100k, then......all the way down to $10K......in cash..... LOL!!! Guess she didn't love him even that much (I forked out that much from our savings to pay his bills so I was NOT asking for more than what was due, in fact I could have easily asked for way more!!!!). So do what you need with no regret. Don't be afraid to ask for what you have coming. His consquences are his problem not yours.

Hugz,
L.

Orchid,
I'd like to hear more on this, do you yahoo messenger, or aol messenger, i'm really into those lately
hope to hear from you again
KK

As far as I see it, your husband and the OW are illegally married. He has committed a civil action against you and kids. Sounds like there might be another action that you can file. As far as the $750. I would ask your lawyer since he illegally got married, to have him pay the rest. He is illegally married, so therefore he is committing adultery everytime they are together. As for the taxes, it is his responsibility to pay the taxes. He couldn't even wait till the final end.

It seems there should be other legal actions taken against your husband. When he filled out the marriage license, he committed a crime. He filled out not married, single. This is a lie, and could result in penalities.

Yes, the fogggg is so deep with these wayward spouses. They don't see what they have destroyed and damaged. I know, my wayward spouse doesn't either.

But you can be sure, their marriage will not last. Making a bet on that with you here. As soon as reality hits, he will be destroyed again.

Move on, get on with your life. I have really bad days and some good days. I had 2 bad days before the holidays. Knowing this, I will try to remove myself fromt this house I am in with the kids, and get away. Already have a place to go, just need to make arrangements. It is quiet, secluded and I can take books, my dog, and read, some quick food, to munch on, and do whatever I want.

Wayward husband has his 'Hovel' to himself everyday. I need peace and quiet to myself too. But he doesn't see that, doesn't care, and doesn't see anything but himself. But of course to beable to buy for the kids (ours are 16-24) things they want. I can't and he doesn't see that it hurts me, to not to beable to buy for the kids like he does.

What are you doing for new years eve? I am trying to make plans at a party. Will be some drinking, and game playing, and laughing. Am afraid to go alone, but I don't want to be here. There were too many new years eves, WH and I stayed home and did nothing. He is not one to party. I like to once in awhile. Not alot. But I like people, and I like to be with people. So have been invited, and am trying to make my mind up. If not there, then I will stay home and read and watch TV.

Both my boys are not doing anything, so maybe our youngest son can have friends over, and we will play games, and have snacks, and pizza, and enjoy ourselves. Not sure what I am doing. All I know is our oldest daughter, will be out of town.

C2M,
Thanks so much for your thoughtful reply. I know what WH has done is a felony, but I'm leaving it alone. i don't want to be bitter, and have it come back to me and my kids that i ratted him out... i am just going to go on with my life
Hope you have a wonderful New Year's, don't forget to read my post about the antidepressants, the change i made from zoloft, i posted a new post to you.
And don't forget to change your name, you are a dear person!
KK