</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by catch22222:
<strong>Au Contraire, rh-

You underestimate me as a Christian MAN! Don't think I won't acknowledge W's request for NC, as I love her too much to not do as she says!

Her happiness, joy adn peace the remainder of her days IS ALL I petition the Lord for!

Perhaps your situation is different and painful enough to project onto another WW, whom you don't even know. Based on your behavior at the sk rink, you indoubtedly CAN'T allow your WS move on with her life! I pray for your patience and ability to look beyond and feel the joy that exists for your children to see you both together apart, especially at a time when it IS theirs!

God's BLessing's!

In Christ's NAME!
><><><, CG's</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I don't judge people and I don't even want read your profile as you did't read mine. As you stated on one of your post w/ Lady K ... this forum is not for back and forth. AND DON"T TELL ME ABOUT CHRISTIANITY AND DON"T TELL ME ABOUT PATIENCE ..... I don't post to you in Free2BeMe thread so if you are hurt by your own action then move on. I gave my 2¢ to help Free on her current situation specially when WS doesn't leave her alone and keep inflicting pain.

The sk rink's incident is not about WW bring in OM ... it is about OM, still married, to come to club potluck that is open only for family ... I told her it is fine if they are married. I understand her intention ... hurting, she know what will push my button and she keep at it even though she is the WS ... look familiar ? Look at the mirror, that is the person Lady K is facing. You still inflict hurt to Free ... let her go if you can't love her. Your action don't match your words and worst you bring along HIS name.

-rh-

NB: My 2 D protested bringing OM to skating rink but WW didn't care ... I love my 2 D and I will teach them to stand up to morality w/o conflict. I took OM verbal abuse and not get triggered, I only want OM out and let my 2 D enjoyed their time ... I care less about what my WW want, she could stay.

<small>[ December 27, 2002, 12:40 PM: Message edited by: redhat ]</small>

Apologies rh-

Please accept them! I didn't read your post/profile, nor had the decency to do so! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I'm very sorry for your situation! I'm sorry WW brought MM into what should be a family activity.

I DO SPEAK IN Christ's NAME!
Please forgive ME!

<small>[ December 27, 2002, 12:42 PM: Message edited by: catch22222 ]</small>

catch22222,

Hey, we are only human <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> . It is not about the mistake but what are you going to do about it. I am starting to read your old post, probably you could enlighthen me on where you are at right now and where you are heading. It seems like you are out of the fog, it is never too late.

-rh-

rh-

Since mid-Oct I've been working on my walk with the Lord or should I say he's been working in me!
It began when I met up with an old friend of sorts at my class re-union (20 yrs)! His bio in our class program simple read...Gave my life over to Christ 14 yrs. ago! We shared a few things but not what I was wrestling with (infidelity, sex addiction and such). A week late rhe sent me a letter telling me it was great to see and asked me how my walk with the Lord was!? WELL...i sent him a 4 page letter confessing to him my pain and struggle! We got together a few days later and awlked through a local mall...he prayed over me and has since become one of 2 accountability partners.

I have since and a month or so prior working with my Pastor, counselor and have since attended several SLAA groups! I've read "Boundaries" by CLoud and Townsend and discovered I have the biblical standing to establish boundaries!!

Although my life is not where I know will bring me, ultimately, I know I'm in his path of light!

Thanks for letting me share, rh!

God's BLessings to you and girls!

catch22222,

I am glad you found HIM in your life and also it seems that your church/freinds has experience dealing with A. It is good to have someone here on earth to be your accountability partner. Keep HIM in your life and keep that personal relationship alive. Remember when you state that you are a Christian ... you are judged by higher standard, keep it close to your heart and live in HIS light.

You could do NC w/ OW even working in the same office. Don't make mistake again ... your will be tempted even more since you are closer to HIS light. Spend time praying daily to keep your relationship with your personal savior.

With SO, don't judged and stay truth to your words. Because you find your savior now doesn't give you a right to judge your W, just pray for her. It will take time to finalized Dv and keep praying that there will be a path for both of you to meet and merge.

Please stay on the board and help others ... there are plenty of hurt and not enough comforting words around.

God Bless you -rh-

GM rh-

YOur words about being held to a higher standard, resound what what my AP has said all along. Fruthermore, he said it in a context, something he does out of the spirit very effectively, WE as christians MUST be held to a higher standard, not to give us right to judge but to LOVE! I have held that phrase in my heart since my baptismal immersion on 12/12...when I was walking in the flesh, teetering on my Chrstian fence, I NEVER grasped what could only be comprehended in through the Holy Spirit (does that make sense, it does to me, NOW!). This is where my sense of humor comes from, my warmth, my charm, my patience, kindness...Where before those qualitites shined but in Satans darkness!

I could not perceive the difference between the characteristics of light or dark...I see very clearly now where my qualities and charactersitics are rooted. He says (I like present tense, cause he's forever alive), I AM the vine and ye are the branches: He that abides in me, and I in him, THE SAME, brings forth much fruit! (John 15:5)

rh- I agree with you about NOT judging BS, I pray for her everyday! Thank you for the reminder of what it means to walk in the light!

God Bless you TODAY, rh!

In Christ's Name I speak!
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