I have also posted this on the Divorce boards...

Hello, all,

These boards have been so valuable in my life over the years. I would like to take this opportunity to thank everyone for the continued support and guidance... I don't think I could have made it through the eye of the storm without you. I will miss everyone!

Since my WH (catch22222) has come to this forum I feel like my space has been invaded. I will be the one to leave as I do thnk catch (in all his rightiousness) has more to offer here than I do.

Seeing catch's words on these boards just tail spins me emotionally and sets me back into unhealthy feelings and thoughts. I am trying to move forward in my life and recover from the pain of his destruction.

Yes, I am still extremely angry and bitter and more so these days because he can go on with life with a big smile on his face because he was born again and rebaptized. I'm sorry, I don't buy it.

I stayed away from catch's threads to give him space to feel free to write (although I had urges to clarify his views at times, but didn't), but he invaded mine yesterday and again tried to show how rightious and good he is and I felt as though I had to further defend my reason for the post.

I wish you all the best as you continue to recover and rebuild your lives!

Blessings!

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<small>[ January 11, 2003, 08:35 PM: Message edited by: Free2BMe ]</small>

Free.....
Your name applies that you are free to be you!!!
It is your choice to leave, but sheesh, if you have met people here that you value, why hurt yourself more? Your WS made the choice to hurt you, that was a given....but now you are making a choice to hurt yourself over what?? So what if he and her post here.....YOU ARE FREE to do was you wish and I would hope that if you really received so much help and guidance here that you would not thrown it away, JMHO as aggressive as it sounds. YOU have alot to offer others, don't deny them or yourself!!!!! Well, I have stepped off my soapbox, hope you think about what choice you are now making for yourself.... Take Care and know you will be missed.

Free,
My H posted on MB for a short while during the time we were separated and I no longer wanted to reconcile.

If I've read Catch's posts, I'm suffering from MB oldtimers and didn't put 2222 & 2BMe together <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> .

But I do remember how my H said I misrepresented him, and I wasn't too keen on how he represented himself...in retrospect, it was like 2 people going to the same movie with 2 completely different impressions, that would have been my H & I in the same discussion and our differing viewpoints at that time.

I think it's hard to make estranged spouses both posting workable. And, I also remember how utterly irritated I was with BS who told my H they "wished he was their WS". Ugh, nobody ever seemed to want to change places with me during my 18 month Plan A & 7 separations! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Ah, bygones. I understand it was a kind of support for the remorse he was showing then, just one that wasn't pleasant for me to witness.

I'm sorry that you are leaving, just wanted you to know this has happened to others.

H did leave MB to me after about a month...and we later reconciled.

Free2BMe,

Don't go 'cause of that reason. Just ignore his post. You post for you not fo him. Either he will get tired or he will find something else to annoy you with.

If he presisit, the moderator will be glad to lock his out.

-rh-

I also didn't make the connection between you two, even though I've read both of your posts over the last couple of months.

Redhat said something interesting...at what point can/will/should a moderator step in??

Do what you feel YOU HAVE to do - you're the only one who can gauge your capacity for this. I know it has got to be VERY tough knowing he's posting here, but maybe he is truly learning and growing. Lor's post should give you some hope!

Regardless, you are very much loved and appreciated here at MB!

Free2BeMe,

I don't know what to say except I'm sorry.

This brings up the issue of whether or not to confront OW. I hope I'm not getting too personal, but did you ever inform OP of this? Free2BeMe, if it were me I would definitely want to know. I would feel terrible about unknowingly interfering in someone's marital relationship, and I can't describe how awful I would feel to discover that I was unknowingly interfering with their marital recovery. I would also respect any and all boundaries of the BS. I am wondering if you have tried this with OP?

Free2BeMe, I wish you well. I hope that it is possible for you to stay here for your own benefit now that you have exposed this difficult issue. If you can't stay because it's better for you not to, I wish you health and recovery and hope that you find something similar to these boards.

Thank you for sharing your recovery process through your posts. I have learned a lot from you.

Take care

(edited to change poster's name to OP--I misread the name and thought it was someone else)

<small>[ January 11, 2003, 04:12 PM: Message edited by: YetAgain ]</small>

Hi free,

If I read right, the poster you referred to is NOT the OW, right? Instead this poster is a BS that has been here since 2001 and maybe just posted a bit much to Catch2222?

If that is what it is and it has been straightened out (based on another thread), R U still going to post here?

When couples post, it is hard can be progressive but hard. My H posted a couple of times with a bit of anger under his nails (fingernails - LOL!!) But he soon realized he couldn't make MB look bad - nope we are just tooo clear headed and NOT in the fog. So the saying you can fool some of the people some of the time but not all of the people all of the time..... well until he was out of the fog, he knew he didn't stand a chance.

Now I am hoping that Catch will wake up and post will reality.. religion or no religion, marriage recovery takes truthful effort on the part of both. No glossing over the problems or hiding behind 'another' sign in the road of life.

As for the poster, well I think she got caught up helping someone and may have unwittingly given the wrong impression. I can understand how that can be done so we all need to be careful.

Hope U 2 stay here with us for a spell longer. ok?

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<small>[ January 12, 2003, 02:22 AM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

Well didnt know the brow beating was continuing on other forums....wow F2bme
wish you had clued me in on your post to this forum as well..just stumbled over it.....
I am really shocked at how you have publicly accused me....as I said on the other forum, I have offered your husband nothing but support and encouragement. Nothing more. Orchid, you know me from way back and know this is not my character. Yes, I took an interest in Catch's post because I was hoping to help maybe one WS find his way back to his wife. Nothing more...Anyone can click on my profile and read everything I have said to him and if f2bme doesnt see that my only motivation was to help her H come out of the fog a little and start making changes that would benefit their efforts at reconciling than I cant help it. I treated him with kindness and care, like I try to treat everyone including f2bme. I would never do anything to undermine anyones attempts at reconciling. I just put them together myself Friday of this week. I knew his wife posted here but had no idea who she was. Yes there was some small talk about vacations and such but he discussed those things with others as well, not just me. f2bme you know what has been said in our private communication with each other and all I can say is that I hope both you and Catch will continue to post here and I hope I can find a way to feel that I to can continue to post here as well. As I said on the divorce forum....I am sorry if any thing I said to your H was offensive, certainly not my intent. Again, please stop this. F2bme, thanks for at least editing your original post removing my name.

Dear Faith4us,

It is good to hear from you. I understand. Hope you realize that my post was not just to you or about you but a reminder to all of us.

What happened here could have easily happened to anyone of us.

Please let us know how you are doing. We can do that on another thread.

If you want me to remove the name from my post, let me know and I will.

Please take care.

L.

ps: I went ahead and removed it from my post anyways.....

<small>[ January 12, 2003, 02:24 AM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

Faith4us,

I posted this here as well because I have had a lot of support on this board from people who don't rad the divorce boards. I wanted to let them know I was leaving as well.

Again, I'm very sorry you were dragged into this, but I think most of the floggings were directed to catch.

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