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Well,
to start out my story let me say first of all i have been with my H now 12 yrs. We have been married 5 lived together 7. He allways told me little lies, which did not mean to much starting out. But as the months and yrs went by the lies got bigger and he become very secretive with everything he did. When i tried to confront him about the lies he told me he would say i did not lie to u knowing i knew he did. He started into porn about 1 yr ago not for sure if he still is into the porn says he is not, but i can not belive a word he says any longer. I just can't trust him anymore, as he has caused me to loose all trust in him. I try to open up to him at times even when he tells me i have not lied to u for a long time. So i open up then later catch him in a lie. and that throws me futher back. He also is a very irresponible, and will not take any advice to make things better. I just don't know what to do outher than to leave.I have tried and tried in this marrige. Plus i feel like he has cheated on me, can't prove anything just alot of gut feeling and things that happened that made me feel this way, 1- money coming up missing 2- leaving and not wanting me to go places with him. 3-alot of hang up phone calls and when the phone does ring he actually runs to it ,trying to answer it b/f i do. Never did that b/f. 4- phone ring 1 day he was on it in our back bedroom when i walked back there to see who it was i heard him say hey i got to go!!! and hung up really fast. When i confronted him about this he said oh i was talking to the uninployment office, i said that can't be as they are closed to day b/c it is washington's birthday. He then said well i was talking just to the automated machine <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> i said what u don't talk to a machine. Well he still said yes i was. So see i can not get no where with him. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

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Have you read all the site? It sounds like you guys need some counseling.
Would he agree to that?
Have you thought of getting into counseling yourself?
I would start examining phone records, make him be accountable for the time he is away from home or just flat out ask him if he is cheating.
My WS's "friend" ended up being who he was cheating on me with.
Do you feel like you could make a go of your marriage?
Have you sat down and thought about what you would do if you found out he was cheating?
If he has been lying to you for so long it sounds like it is something you have to tackle and say you wont put up with it any longer.
Is the porn an addiction?
Do you want to make it work?
Let us know,
Hugs,
layli


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