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This heifer has made up a new yahoo id and immed him againnnnnn.It has been two months since we fought, and we have had no contact since and still she persists. I do not have any reason to suspect that he had anything to do with it. He has been home with me, no unaccounted for time, he no longer has his cell or pager, and since he isn't working anymore he is home all the time. Things have been great, of course it's because I don't have to worry about where he is, he's at home. But back to her, he plays yahoo games alot, and people he plays with will add him to their buddy list, which is okay (though I do check all profiles) so I looked and one day there was a new name and immediately I got this feeling, and I knew this was someone I didn't want on the list, did't know it was her, but felt it was wrong. So I delete it and she resends the invitation. So I ask him, he says he doesn't know who it is and has never spoken with the person, I made him swear. He did. So I believe him. Okay, so I go to my yahoo and I send a message saying I'd like to know who it is and what the nature of relationship is with fan (his id) and I include that if it is you know who I will catch you again and beat you down, go away. She then comes on one night while he's playing and he tells her to come to his room she does and he questions her. Is this Amber, she says this is not A.G. DUMB B****. So he put her on ignore, and told me that he had felt like it was her when I asked but didn't say cause he wasn't sure and he knew how I'd react but as soon as he found out it was he stopped talking. So I wrote her back and told her she was a [censored] and now she's on ignore again. She sent me an offline message to say bring it on, she's ready now. I say, "What, did I catch you off guard the first time?" And that's the end. She will now be ignored from now on, he says I should've just done that from the start, and he's right, but I just couldn't. I made him show me where she lives, and then I told him if he ever cheated on me again,he'd better leave first or sleep with one eye open. And that if she ever crossed my path again, well she just better not. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
And listen, I'm really not psycho, honest, just realllly hate this b****, she just won't stop. But I'm over the contact thing, right now I believe he is not seeing her or contacting her and I am satisfied with that for right now, but my eyes are wide open. Thanks for letting me vent, Bridgette
HE HE, Thanks guys is this better?
<small>[ January 16, 2003, 10:22 PM: Message edited by: lady_terry ]</small>
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Those threats you made to your H and OW....get them off the site. If ever anything happened to either of them, you would be in trouble. It is incriminating.
Sad that you have to put up with the leech, but you and your H seem in control of it. Keep on focussing on the two of you, and ignore her in real life as well as on yahoo.
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I don't know how to edit, not that I'm really worried, but you may be right now that I've reread it. How do i do that?
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ok first, click on the little paper and pencil above your post...that lets you edit. Secondly, vent away....I KNOW how you feel...I too told my H EXACTLY what I'd do to the OW...(and his sister who helped him decieve me) I can tell you I scared the sh** out of a few people. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> That was what drove me to IC. I even scared myself. I didn't realize I was capable of doing harm to another human being. Wow...learn something new everyday! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> I have my feelings under control now, thank God. I never want to visit that dark place ever again! Good luck to you finding peace...it's not easy. God bless
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Lady-Terry, glad Nina told you how to edit.I know exactly how you feel and had a few unworthy thoughts myself, but be careful putting it here. We know it's the anger and just talk most times, but she's right if something happened to them.
Next, if she im's or emails you with nasty remarks, report her to yahoo or any other server she uses!abuse@yahoo.com
As for scaring her, I did mine on the phone! But you also have to be careful if you have cordless phone as people can pick up your calls from scanners and ham radios. Use land line or pay phones!
Another way to protect is instead of blocking her, since she can change screen names, is to make an allow list of only those friends your or H allow to im or email you. go to mail controls to do that under each of your screen names!
And I think venting is good for us! So go right ahead! I do.
God bless, LouLou
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Yes, venting is good!!!!!!!!! We all need to do that!
Glad to see you edited your post.....I have seen worse here btw, lol! But it wasn't nme who helped.....thanks nutcase....what a name, lol!
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Nina too: <strong> Glad to see you edited your post.....I have seen worse here btw, lol! But it wasn't nme who helped.....thanks nutcase....what a name, lol! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Your very welcome...As to the name, I have 3 teenagers and going thru all this mess...lol figured "nutcase" was very fitting lol. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> God Bless
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I'm feeling all of you on this one, the way I go up in my head but neither one of them are in my immediate contact. That is OW and H. I do have this obseesion to meet her. I have to know at all time were she resides. I don't trust her.I believe she's into identity thief and the whole nine yrds. So I keep a record of where she resides, it maybe I just have an obsession. I know I haven't been venting lately. I feel real jealous, because of the treatment the OC and OW get even though she married to someone else. I don't get any kind of support what so ever. I'm very angry and hurt about that, this OC thing has me very sensitive. I know one thing this has changed my life, I will never be the same. I have serious trust issue. I will not allow another guy to get ten feet of me. I just needed to vent also. Was up Terry. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> E-mail me ok. <small>[ January 29, 2003, 06:38 AM: Message edited by: MALC ]</small>
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