Hi Orchid,

Please let me know if you know of anything I can do to support Faith4me, if I can do it I will. Also, please tell me if I am saying anything that is counterproductive and I will stop.

Thanks--I hope you hear from her tomorrow.

Take care

Hi YA,

You are such a caring friend. What can we do? Well I posted to her today and she seems better. I did not get a call yesterday, but I will send her phone # tonight.

I think we can be supportive as we have been here. Not much more than that. Of course you have the moderators here and Jennifer is familar with their case.

I post to both since I suspect that SNL does read here every so often. I have spoken to SNL on the phone before. He has not replied to my statements and while I know he is very capable of being nice, I am disappointed that it has come to this.

I used to joke around with SNL that he is much better off being married to F4me than someone like me. I am way too demanding and he should feel sorry for my H!!! LOL!!

Well all those words are playing back in his ears now. Let's see where it takes him.

I was worried about both of them earlier this weekend, especially after that meeting on Friday. Seems like the pendelumn swings far and wide over there. I wish for some stability in their lives.

A lot of it is up to F4me. She will have to learn to deal with her issues with or without SNL but SNL needs to NOT be a burden to his family. They can his responsibility but he seems to pull out his share whenever he can. So that seems to offset what he rightfully owes them.

Not sure about why F4me is still meeting those needs of his (domestic support, etc). I am sure it is hard. She shows herself to be such a giving person.

SNL may have other things to say but she sure does give him a lot of her time and attention.

Wonder who will really miss who when this is all over?

L.

Hi Orchid,

I forgot to look for your response before I posted to Faith4me. Thanks for the info.

I was alarmed before Christmas when someone used the word "suicidal" as that is a problem for many people around the holidays and many drs offices are closed. It is a difficult time of year to start forming a support system if you don't already have one and, unfortunately, the computer is all some people have. It is so hard to gauge how to say things over the computer because we cannot see people's faces and reactions. I'm glad she's off to a good start in forming a support network. I hope she adds in a support group or two soon, if for no other reason than to not be around and influenced by snl as often. Let's face it, he has his own interests in mind in everything he says and does right now.

I need to leave this forum for a while. My seperation is over and I need to spend most of my computer time in the info pages rather than the discussion boards. Being mostly a lurker for about two years has brought me through some very difficult times, but now I must put my focus on the "strictly Harley" method if you know what I mean. I've been checking on Faith4me but curiosity gets me every time and I check on others too to see how they're doing LOL I have Faith4me's email address but I think it's better to post in a public forum so that others can jump in. I'm hoping that Faith4me will have a real life support network in place soon--she will need a lot. There was a time when I did something recovery-to-something related almost every day. It takes what it takes, right?

Your question at the end made me laugh! I have also asked that question and to start I think Faith4me will miss snl the most. I also think that if Faith4me keeps going forward with her recovery programs, within two years no one will recognize her! I can't imagine she would be interested in snl then, she'll probably have too many suitors to give him much thought (wow, what an old-fashioned term--I'm not that old, really!).

Thanks for the reply Orchid. I figured that since you have phone contact with them that you would know how to advise me.

Take care Orchid