Well the wife is moving out here soon. We will have a little or no contact separation. She wants to go out there and find out what she missed out on in getting married young. She tells me she wishes to sleep with as many men as possible to get the experience she needs. I have a hard time thinking about taking her back one day if she has been with lots of men. She says though that when she comes back she will be the same person just more experienced sexually. She says shes not looking for anything permanent out there just a little fun. So has anyone had experience with taking someone like this back? Part of me wants to move on and part of me wants to hang on. She won't communicate with me at all. She has no answers etc...

Hang in there fireman1, you should be getting some responses from the folks here anytime now.

fireman,

So the big question you will have to ask yourself is if you can accept being married to someone who is openly committed to a life of swinging. If you don't mind being married to someone who is more committed to having sex with other men than she is to her H and children then you have your woman.

This is more than aberrant, out of character behavior that is likely to change, this is her LIFESTYLE. She is committed to it and makes no apology for it because she sees nothing wrong with it. And it is unlikely that you will change her. She sees nothing wrong with having sex with other men now, so I don't know why you think that would change. In fact, it is highly unrealistic to think she would change.

I would brace for the worst and take steps to protect yourself and ESPECIALLY your daughters from her by moving to Plan B. Sorry to be so blunt, but this situation is vastly different from a WS who commits behavior that is out of character. This *IS* her character.

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