I know how many people here are desparate to hear of successes.

Bill Uphill posted his story on the Recovery Board and I have hijacked the link for those looking for some inspiration that marriages can be salvaged thru all of this.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=31;t=009034

Elad - I'm always happy to read success stories. Thanks for posting the link.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> was thinking of you and all my 'old' MB buddies the other night...

Hope you are well.

Cali

Hi unsure...

Sometimes the success stories keep us going...and at least we know that somepeople have made it...

How are you?

E

Elad -- Thanks for asking. I'm doing ok by keeping myself really busy. I am having a dinner party tonight to honor a good friend's recent engagement (his first M at 45 and he's a peach) and planning on skiing both days this weekend. I'm fortunate that I have a small ski area less than 45 minutes from my house.

WH is meeting with the therapist on Monday a.m. - he's going to meet with him alone first and get a recommendation for an MC. I like this therapist a lot and think this is progress for WH. My hopes are not high, but I am encouraged. I had dinner earlier this week with a good friend of WH's who spent the evening trying to convince me that I've been alone in my M for so long that I should move forward without WH because the friend believes that WH is stuck and I'm making changes. It was hard to hear from this man, but upon further reflection I am not ready to give up as long as WH tries something different. I consider going back to IC and even stating he's willing to MC (although not commit to M) as something different.

How are you? Have you and WW spoken this week? How is her father doing? Will she let you be there for her at all during what has got to be a tough time for her?

Cali---

It's always nice to be thought of <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I am doing OK....

WW is still on her own...we still talk and we are trying for now just to be friends with no expectations and no pressure. For now it seems to work for both of us OK, but we realize that we can't live that way forever and at some point we have to fish or cut bait.

But I am doing well none-the-less.

So many new names and faces here. Many of us "oldtimers" have graduated or at least post less frequently. But I do think of many of them from time to time and wonder how their stories turned out.

I don't post much. As I am sure you know, this can become overwhelming and I have had to stay off the board more or less but i do lurk and post occassionaly if I think I can help someone.

How are you? How is that new house? I have a feeling that is keeping you very busy...I hope everything is OK with you and your family.

You are still the queen... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

E

Hi unsure...

As I posted to Cali, I am doing well.

My WW has been more communicative and we have spent a little time together just trying to see what happens without pressure or expectations.

She spent some time at our house on Sunday...cleaning out closets etc...and said the next day that she appreciated the time we spent and it felt "comfortable."

I am not sure what, if anything, it all means but for now it's OK. I seem to be getting by OK and don't feel any urgency to make anything happen but obviously we can't go on like this forever.

I am like you I think....listening to my own feelings and my own heart and not worrying about what others say or think I should do.

You know best what is best for you....

Have a nice weekend...

Take care

E