Hello everyone,
I know it has been awhile since my last vist, I need to come to vent! I have been doing some searching and crap what i fount hurts me so bad! It may not seem like such a big deal but to me it is. I saw in my doucemts a picture of a girl holding up a sign saying miss u. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> then when i put in files and folders webcam pictures i saw alot of girls barley dressed, some nude. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> all i can say or think right now is it HURTS!!!!!! There is no since in me even confronting him about what i saw as he would just deni it like he does everything else. What is it with him that he can not be honest about nothing to me? I don't understand. Oh well i guess deal with it or go on huh? b/c he won't help himself. Even when we did both go to counceling that did not even help. He did what they told him to do starting out then back to the same old him. Plus he turned everything around on me where i felt stupid. There is no hope i guess. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Cathy- Like I said before, if you honestly believe he will not change and are sick of trying than it is time to move on. If you think there is even a sliver of a chance that the M can be saved or if you still love him than you need to try to save it.

It is a decision only you can make, I will be here to support you either way. Please email me anytime you want to!

STTSI

Sometimes you discover that it's time to cut your losses. Sounds like you're about at this point. It wasn't anything you did or didn't do. This is HIS problem...one that he is either unwilling or incapable of dealing with.

Good luck wherever your healing path takes you, may you find peace, happiness and love.

Still trying to save it,
Ty for your reply back, I just needed to really vent today, i just don't know what to do, if i want my marrige or not that is my problem i a'm trying to figure out here. I was not asking any questions just as i said trying to figure out what to do is all and vent. Cathy

Yeah i guess it is time then to move on. But i wanted more edivence to hang my H before i make up my mind what i a'm going to do. I fount out now that the file i saw that was in his documents of a women with a card up saying miss u xoxoxo had more things in that file when i clicked on it to open the file there were many things in that file as far as the girl picture saying that and the gocarts forums he had been to as well as our hotmail a lot of thigs. So it is just a matter of time b/f i catch him doing outher things.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by in the dark_45:
<strong>Yeah i guess it is time then to move on. But i wanted more edivence to hang my H before i make up my mind what i a'm going to do. I fount out now that the file i saw that was in his documents of a women with a card up saying miss u xoxoxo had more things in that file when i clicked on it to open the file there were many things in that file as far as the girl picture saying that and the gocarts forums he had been to as well as our hotmail a lot of thigs. So it is just a matter of time b/f i catch him doing outher things.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

Cathy- It sounds like you are trying to justify leaving in your mind. That tells me that you are unsure if this is the right decision or not. Again, please find a counselor! We are just regular people and are not therapists, sorry everyone). A counselor will help you to overcome the pain from the end of your first marriage and also may help you to see this M in a different light.

You said you would only go to a christian counselor, please find one I think it might bring peace into you life!

STTSI