I really don't know if I can deal with this situation anymore. My H continues to blatantly rub his A in my face. He continues to come home around 2am and eat lunch and dinner with the OW. She is a single coworker and does not have a life so she clings on to my H and he lets her. She even called him the other night because her toilet was clogged! How pitiful. My H had to tell her how to unclog her toilet. I hate living like this and I hate what he is doing to us. I told him that I was going to an attorney and he blew up and stormed out of the house.

He is pushing me to refinance the house and add in all the debt that he has accrued during his A. I will not refinance. The mortgage payment bounced yesterday so he is really pushing for the refinance. He is also taking the majority of our tax return to pay off a loan from his friend. He borrowed $8000 for a downpayment to buy a new SUV last month. He just thinks that the tax return is all his to spend.

I guess the only thing left is to serve him with D papers?? He refuses to leave and I can’t handle him coming and going as he pleases. We have been together 17 years on Sunday and he spent the day with the OW (claimed he went to work). I was hoping that things would change and I have been dealing with this A for 6 months. He is still lying to my face and spending money like it is water. I really don’t like this person in my house or around my children. He is a stranger to me who lies and cheats and I just want him to leave me alone forever.

Wake up call for your WH! The tax return if joint is made out to both of you. Refuse to sign except in presence of teller at bank after telling them you want your half given to you. He can forge your signature, but then it's a prison sentence! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
Don't allow him to call all the shots. He sound flakey by letting house payment be late or not paid.So he can't afford an SUV!
LouLou

P.S. see an ATTY ASAP, have assets frozen and a division done before he throws it all away!
Then sell the damned SUV! If you don't tie up assets, he'll leave you with nothing to support you and children with. And think about sueing OW for alienation of effection and damages. Remember SPECIAL DAMAGES TO ASK FOR. A good old judge taught me that trick!
LouLou

If your H forgets to come home, I would recommend you taking him to the doctor (or vet) and implant one of those tracking devices like they put in cats..... LOL!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Then if he is late, you can activate the device and imagine if it goes off (get the one with lights and whistles) when he is with the OW!!!

Hey, new marketing idea..... ya think!??!

Just kidding....

Anyone who forgets and is having an A is an a$$. Play it back to him and see if he would believe his excuse. I did that with my H and he said it was stupid.... so I said, yep that 's what it sounded like to me when you said it! LOL!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Go get financially secure, work with your lawyer and get ready for a rough ride. If the OW is as you say, he is in the fog (blinds the eyes of truth). One day he will wake up and see the OW as she is. In the meantime you need to protect yourself. Consider getting checked (STD, etc.).

JMHO,
L.