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Well lets see, since the last time i posted everything was going good, we were happy. yesterday he got mad at me and didnt want to be around me and he started asking me all the same questions again like why did i do it and why do i want to be with him. he thinks i have some evil plan for him and that i really dont want to be with him that i am just planning to hurt him again. he also thinks that i think about the other guy all the time, i honestly dont ever think of him and i dont want to, but my H doesnt believe me. he also thinks that during sex i am not thinking about him he thinks im thinking about the other guy. we have sex a lot more now then we did before so he thinks that i think of someone else, but i dont. i am really thinking of my H and i think our sex is really good, but i think my H is getting bored and i dont know what to do?

bump

I believed that I mentioned before that you were going to have a problem when you stated that you had sex with another man while you are married and love your husband and yet have no answer to his question of why you did it. Your answer that you don't know why is an answer that would drive any husband crazy. If you do know why then how can it be prevented in the future and how can your husband know what to look for to deal with this problem? If you maintain that you simply have no idea why you had sex with another man then your husband would naturally think that you are crazy and simply will never trust you again because you have no idea why you did this? Again I think you need to be absolutely honest with him about your thought and feelings that day that made you decide to cheat on him. By not doing this your husband has to come up with reasons and the reasons he is coming up with is that the OM was a better lover and you are more sexually attractive to the OM. I thought this would happen.
You need to be honest and tell him why this happened. I wish you luck.