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You guys won't believe this! This is so weird how my WS is so much like himself again. Actually he's more like he was when we were courting. Even if this does not last it sure feels wonderful now. I'm trying to believe its real. He insists that he will continue to reassure me.
He came to see me at my office today and gave me a motivational tape. He wants me to listen to "positive" things and to think "positive" until he comes home.
He gave me a huge bouquet of flowers at the Health Club.
I'm still being aloof along with doing My PLAN. He's initiating all the contact. In regards to THE PLAN, I take advantage of his assistance which he likes to give. "My MAN" likes giving me advice to "help me". He suggested certain workout machines and I was sooo appreciative. The workout suggestions were good. I really did appreciate his help. He also wants me to get a lock so my stuff won't get stolen. I'm realizing now how my attention to these things is so important to him. I used to disregard this advice and would not show appreciation.
I will lay off talking about the OW a day or so. He knows what he has to do and keeps telling me without me asking.
Espoir-don't worry about Valentine's Day. It never has been a big deal for us !!!
<small>[ February 12, 2003, 08:19 PM: Message edited by: mimi1254 ]</small>
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It's continuing to go unbelievably great!
WS says he's "in love" with me "again".
Knows he was in a "black hole" when he went away.
A real "date" is set for Saturday.
I am now a strong advocate of separation.
He insists that nothing is going to change his mind.
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Mimi, Wonderful news and you are doing such a great job, and advocate now eh?? So I'm sure you'll be going shopping for your date? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
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<small>[ February 13, 2003, 12:21 PM: Message edited by: sadinaz ]</small>
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Neesha: Yes. I am going shopping. How did you know???? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Mimi that's great. I am happy for you.
P.S. You should update your signature line, as you are not strugggling any more. Keep up the good job.
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Misia:
Actually I'm continuing to struggle. I'm just trying to focus on the positive. My bed is still empty at night. I will not believe this is for real until my WS is home and the NC letter is done.
He absolutely insists that nothing will turn him around and he is PROBABLY telling the truth. He is begging me almost to trust him. However, once you've been through what we've been through, life will never be the same. It's hard to believe that I will be ever be certain about anything.
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