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I saw some guidelines for what to include and not include in a NC letter but can't remember where. If my W sends one I want it to be done the right way. Anybody know how I can find out?

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Here's a paste from the Infidelity section of this site. It's Dr. H writing:

"My advice is to write a final letter in a way that the victimized spouse would agree to send it. It should begin with a statement of how selfish it was to cause those they loved so much pain, and while marital reconciliation cannot completely repay the offense, it's the right thing to do. A statement should be made about how much the unfaithful spouse cares about his spouse and family, and for their protection, has decided to completely end the relationship with the lover. He or she has promised never to see or communicate with the lover again in life, and asks the lover to respect that promise. Nothing should be said about how much the lover will be missed. After the letter is written, the victimized spouse should read and approve it before it is sent."

I hope this helps.


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