I will have been married for only two years in June 03. This is a second marriage for both of us. His first wife died and he was left with two children. I have one with my first husband and now we have one together. We had a long distance courtship which I regret. What I thought I was marrying I was not. After about two months into the marriage I realized I had made a major mistake. I thought I was doing God's will. My H and I do not see eye to eye on anything. We cannot agree on how to raise the children. We do not have anything in common. I find that I don't even like being with him much. I do not desire him anymore. I tried to address these issues early on, but he claimed to have no problems and therefore I should just sit back and let things be. He said he did not need counseling because there was nothing wrong with him. I have resented him ever since. My family senses how unhappy I am with him. Now, I stay in the marriage just because of my children. But I don't love him anymore. How can I keep going through the motions. It is hard.
dr

daisyruth:

Are YOU in counseling?

It's certianly not true, based on what you've said, that your H doesn't have ANY problems, because if you're unhappy, ...well, that's a big problem if he wants the M to continue.

If you're new here, you may not have read the articles on this website. Though a lot are about infidelity, there's a lot of material about starting a new marriage and about identifying and meeting each others' needs. There are also a lot of wonderful people on this forum that can offer feedback on your problems and give suggestions.

I wish you all the best,
-Qfwfq