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Here we go again!!!!!!!!!!!!!
#1058049 02/21/03 03:06 PM
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Well me and my wife still have not talked about what I believe was an A. I tried to talk about us last night, but she didn't want to. She now hates her job and is looking for another. I thought this was good, because then she would be away from the OM. WRONG!!! Now she has been talking to an old boyfriend from high school. She told me that he came in to where she works to buy some things, and that they talked for a little bit. Now this morning I see where they have sent emails to each other, and he refers to her as "HOTTIE".

I'm now getting that sick feeling again. I don't think that I can go through this again. I feel like crawling under a rock and just disappearing.

Is there any hope out there?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
Re: Here we go again!!!!!!!!!!!!!
#1058050 02/21/03 03:17 PM
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How are you doing at meeting her needs, spending and 15 hours a week with her?

Have you finished reading HNHN yet?

What else are you doing to try and restore your marriage?

Has all contact with the first OM stopped?

Are your parents still in the home?

Is she back home from her parents?

Give us some more info, perhaps you have done it on other posts and I missed it???

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Re: Here we go again!!!!!!!!!!!!!
#1058051 02/21/03 03:26 PM
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I'm trying to meet all of her needs, but she wont talk much.

We do spend time together, but not close us time.

Have not finished HNHN.

I'm trying to be there for her, and help her all I can.

She still works with OM.

My parents moved out 2 months ago.

She is back from her mom's house.

I thought things were starting to get better. She started talking a little more to me. Nothing about us, but at least talking. Hope this helps.
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#1058052 02/21/03 05:13 PM
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Of course there's hope. There's been worse cases than yours that have reconciled.

Here's an idea. Leverage what you can from the emails to deepen your understanding of what appeals to her. I don't know if you've ever talked about what her top ENs might be. Have you identified them and figured out the best way to meet them? Since she isn't talking much, you're going to kick your deduction skills into high gear.

Try talking about her ENs and how you meet them or fail to meet them in a post. That might be useful for some discussion by others. The "I haven't told her yet" line is hard to respond to after 4-5 times. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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