Hi

If you knew who's your husband's OW is would you send her tape of Dr. Phil show about OW.
Do you think she would get the message?

I loved his show about OW. He said that only 5% of relationships resulted from afairs have a chance to be long term relationships. I know my H's OW wanted out, as my H told me but he convinced her that he wants to be with her etc. Yes, he told me that, as painful as it was, he said that to me. I am thinking if she wanted out maybe she has doubts then maybe after seeing the tape she would change her mind and dump my H. The only think is I don't know who she is, but let's assume I do.
What doo you think?

Forget it. Don't even think about it.

Have you ever tried arguing with a drunk?

Same thing. It won't do ANY good and can only make things worse.

This is not about OW - it's about your marriage. Do not focus on OW, OK?

WAT

I also don't think it would do any good to send a tape to OW. You'd only be increasing the drama, and giving OW and WH a common enemy (you) to bring them closer together.

Focus this time on YOU!! Don't dwell on the A, as difficult as that may be. If you can forget about it for even a few minutes every day you'll be better off. Don't let your WH and his selfish behavior run you life!!! You can do this!!

Lablady

EVERY ow thinks they're in that 5% that will make it. They think their relationship will stand the test of time and they've become the only people in the world to discover true love. She'll agree with the bottle blonde who was way too old to wear that short of a shirt, that it's always the wife's fault and that she asked for it.

So to send her the tape of the show would just be a waste of time and money.

I agree with others. For one thing, it glamorized the OW and all the OW in your H's life would hear is how they think it's all the W's fault. They don't hear reason or morality issues!
BS's are dealing with very selfish, egotistical people! Who, btw, do not know their a-- from hole in the ground I say!
most OW are just being used and too stupid to realize it!
They are just a hole! Nothing between the ears!
The only wake up call OW needs is to hear she's treading on dangerous ground like I told my H's OW! Scared the hell out of her good!
I was not, nor am I about to let someone walk after stealing 30 yrs of my life! They might wind up crawling, maybe not. LOL
Anyhow, he didn't like it one bit that son and I threatened her with round about words. But it solved my problem fast!
When you tell someone if they destroy your family, they better be ready to see theirs destroyed, it makes a big statement!
LouLou