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My wife has started thinking about changing careers, and going back to school. One of her options is moving to her sisters which is 2 states away. The schooling would last for 6 -9 months, but then would have to sign a 3 yr contract. Me and the kids would probably move there later.
My question is. Since my wife has probably had an A, which I believe is over, could this long distance R be like a plan B and let her know what it would be like without me and the kids?
I am going to try and discuss this with her tonight. Not the plan B, but where is our marriage going.
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Bilbo,
If your W is still a bit in the fog, then maybe this is her way of testing you. It should be the other way around (because she is the WS) but in the fog, the WS gets confused and turns the onis around to the BS owing the WS proof. This is hogwash.
Now can you handle this separation? If so what will she do to prove that she is worthy of being part of your family? See you have to refocus them when they start making stupid remarks and innuendos.
JMHO,
L.
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Well the wife and I had somewhat of a talk the other night. I'll post that when I have more time. But I have a couple of more Q's about this move. First I think it would be good because then there is no contact with the other M. Second, we would be moving to an area that we don't know, so that could bring us closer together.
Also her sister is a christian, so with them being around each other alot, she could help to lift the fog.
My main fear is moving away and the marriage not working out and then where would I be? At least I would still be near the kids.
What do you all think?
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"First I think it would be good because then there is no contact with the other M."
I don't really know your whole story but you mentioned that she was thinking about moving to another state for a job and you two would be apart for awhile, right? I guess my question is, how do you know there won't be any contact? Has she written the NC letter and indicated that she wants to work on the M? Sorry if this sounds negative but I'd caution you to be realistic about what her being apart from you might mean...
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The discussion we had in a nut shell was that my wife did not know if she wanted to work on our R or not. When I confronted her on the many cell phone call to a # at first she said it was to the girls at work. When I told her it was not, she then confessed that it was to an old boyfriend, but said that there is nothing going on between them. She said that she would never do anything like that to me.
Anyway, if we move, is anyone familiar with the Vancouver Wa. area, for good M.C.'s.
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