My marriage has some major issues that need to be addressed but I cant seam to get my husband to realize things dont fix themselves. I know we need a lot of help.
I married my husband when I was 15 years old. Now I am only 22. We have a 6 year old daughter together and he has a child who is 7 with a psyco. I have hit a point in my life where I just want to have some fun and enjoy being 22. On the other hand with my husband I feel tied down and ruined. My husband is just 26 himself.
We have been through pure heck in the past 7 years. He has a bad habit of lying to me or telling me what I want to hear. I have been promised time and time again that the lies will stop but I am still catching him in them. I was unfaithful one time about 4 years ago. He found out about this and for the past year all I have heard is how I am a sorry piece of crap.
He says he loves me and I know in his own way he does. Problem is we fight ( physically) anymore it dont take much to roll across the living room. I want to drink or whatever to help ease the pain because I dont see any tears coming from him. My husband acts like nothing really bothers him.
I am so mad and angry at this man I married. I am mad at my parents for allowing this. Allowing me to give up my whole life. I am mad that all I hear is lies and go through crap just to be with this man. I cant trust a single word he says.
For a while after we fight we will have sex or whatever and things will be cool for a while. But... nothing gets discussed about why we fought in the first place.
I dont really want to leave him and go on with my life. I really dont know what to do anymore.
I work with people my own age now and that makes things worse. I see who I should be and I see what makes me happy. Just being me.

4daniels physical abuse is extremely dangerous and you and your H need counseling to deal with this issue in your M. If he doesn't want to go, then you go by yourself because your 6 year old needs at least one parent that is functional. So please go to counseling.

Hi and welcome to MB,

Hon, I am gonna tell you that you had to grow up too fast. That was your choice at the time and now you have to live with that choice (M and child). Still you can be U and enjoy life. It might be a different kind of enjoyment being M and a parent vs single and carefree but the ability to have joy is up to you.

You have listed several issues here that need to be dealt with individually. What have you read here? The book His needs/Her needs by Dr Harley maybe a good place to start.

Take the EN questionnaire and see where you and your H stand. It may be an eye opener.

You are way tooo young to be feeling this old. Much of your life is still ahead of you. Don't strive after stupid things. Plan smart. You will feel better now and later.

Read the book and let us know what you think.

take care,
L.