<small>[ March 02, 2003, 04:32 PM: Message edited by: sandcrab ]</small>

How awful. I don't know your story, but my main concern here is your children, not the adults. (you and your wife)

How can you worry about LBing your wife? Your top priority should be your children, shouldn't it be?
Why worry about your wife's feelings, when your children are malnourished and not cared for?

I have no idea if you're involved in any legalities with your wife, but I think it's time you get custody of your children. This is REPULSIVE behavior on your wife's part.

If I were in your family, and I knew of this--I would call Child Protective Services. Neglect is what it's called, and this is what's going on in their house.(lack of food, unsupervised YOUNG children) Abuse comes in all forms, and neglect is one of them.

Sorry to be blunt, but I'm being direct and honest. Why aren't the children with you?

Please take action, these are your children!

H_P

Oh how much I wish they were but I am stationed in Germay and they are in California. I dont care about LBing my W when it comes to kids. My brother is thinking about calling CPS. I just tried to call her but nobody was home. What I did do was talk to her step mother inlaw who is going to talk to her father about it.

This is very painful right now.

Danny

Let's see your 2-choice dilemma is this:

1. I choose NOT to LB my wife.

2. I choose to make certain (no.... make that DAMN certain) my kids are cared for, safe, and not neglected.

You choose as you wish ....... and, if YOU choose incorrectly the MB 2X4 is gonna whomp yer haid so fast and furious you won't even know what HITya!

Sandcrab .... you are a father .... that means "GOD" to your kids.

Sandcrab .... I live in the Los Angeles area ..... need milk?

Another thought .... Have your sister call child protective services ..... and then you apply for a family emergency leave?

The best I can come up with on short notice.

sandcrab, go to your military chaplain, tell him whats going on. Get leave, get a lawyer and get those kids out of your wife's custody.

Perhaps your SIL can take them while you are in Germany.

I'll be the first MBer in line to whack you with a 2x4 if you choose not to LB your wife.

I am trying to get ahold of her and I dont give a damn about my marriage right now. I think her dad is going to check out whats going on. I dont want to call CPS right away because well I dont know why. I will just wait and see what her father says. I am going to call my mom and tel her to go and pick them up for the day.
Thanks pepper for the milk but I am from the Modesto area.

Oh and I am so pissed at my wife right now I am going to plan B and I may just start to try and forget about her.

Dan

Also My boys are my World and mean everything to me.

This is very hard on me

you know what normally she is the most caring mother a kid could want. It must be the fog.
I wish she would see what she is doing.
danny

Oh dont worry she will get flamed from me

Ok i think I have it coverd. I cant (or she wont) answer my call but I am going to sick the family on her.

I am VERY angery right now but dont get to upset. I dont think its this bad all the time but at least I hope its not.

Next time I will call child protestive services on her.

I wish I could go home (as of right now I am trying to either get out of mil or get stationed close to home) but I wont be able to because of the mision right now.

I will keep you all posted
Dan

What are you going to do if your family is turned away from seeing what's going on with the kids.

Be aware .... your family has no legal rights as far as California is concerned. Your wife can slam the door in their face and be OK with the law.

I suggest your family bring boxes and boxes of food, clothing and other essential kid-supplies when they go over there.

<small>[ March 01, 2003, 01:19 PM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>

the kids do eat just not a normal dinner. they eat a lot of junk food and eat out alot. But they are well clothed.

Sandcrab,

Just reading your status and must say that I am very disappointed by the conduct of your W. Whether she has an A or not does NOT excuse her from being negligent.

I see that you are now utilizing both families. Do the parents from both sides communicate? How about your siblings and hers? This is the time to pull both families together.

If CPS is called in, the chance is taken that the children will be removed and no one will be able to take them. I don't want to scare you. Of course the logical option would be for your children to stay with caring relatives but this is CA and you know how stupid our system can be at times.

Now I am not real close to Modesto but if you need me to, I will take BR's 'enlightened' 2 x 4 and visit the area!!! LOL! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Personally a few MBers have offered to fly across the country to take care of my WS (when he was totally in the fog). In fact we have an MB Fairy here that at one time flew in from Singapore and did a number on the OW...... OUCH! LOL! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

take care,
L.

Orchid
WOW really for Singapore....lol

Im not calling CPS because of that reason, you never know with Cal. I think this will be taken care of by her father so I will just have to wait and see.

Thank you all for be here for me. I am not to worried about her not feeding them but more about leting them go out and about by them selfs. If you all could see them they are both quiet as a button and someone just might take them.

This is not like her and Im praying that her dad will knock some sence into her.

Danny

<small>[ March 01, 2003, 05:26 PM: Message edited by: sandcrab ]</small>

Orchid, what do you mean they flew to WS, what did they do to OW?? Just curious. Can they come to PA?