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The fellings and pain my WS feel are tremendous I can see it in her eyes. It hurts me to the core, I wish there is something I could do for her. I feel sooo powerless. I find myself wishing and praying I could some how take her pain from her, and once again see that beutiful smile that lights my world in such a way that makes the sun envious. But I feel that anything I do only makes her feel worse.
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Joined: Mar 2003
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You must be a very thoughtful and understanding person.
My WS still feels very guilty from time to time and It's been over a year and a half. The regret and hurt will ease over time, but will never go entirely away.
For me, the remorse and guilt my WS was feeling really helped me in my recovery. I didn't enjoy seeing her hurt, but it helped dissipate a lot of the anger I felt. How could I be angry with someone who felt just as bad as I did?
Regards
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Thank you, I think sometimes that I may love her too much. Besides her smile makes my feel so good you should see it it lights up the room.
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I have to agree that I needed to see my WS's guilt as a way to recover. If there was no remorse no guilt then I would have ended everything. Indeed I moved out and told if you care that much about this person he is yours.
Without her remorse I truly believe I would still be in a state of rage and anger. Instead I feel better knowing she is as hurt as I am though she hurt herself with her own actions.
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I thank you both for your posts. I guess your right but I still feel horrable I never could stand to see her cry.
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