I'm so sorry to hear that you have to go through tomorrow alone Goldie.
It was my birthday last week, and my H ignored it more or less (well, he said some smart alecky things about it, but never said "happy birthday"). I honestly prepared myself for him to not do anything, after having gone thru Christmas and our wedding anniversary a week later with him ignoring both days. So, by keeping my expectations low, it made it quite a bit easier. That, and I stayed busy, spent time with my parents, friends, etc.
I know that I complain about my H all the time, but he did say something intelligent this weekend.
I asked him if he saw Christmas and our anniversary and my birthday as days to prove to me that I didn't deserve to be treated nicely or like his wife anymore. He said he saw them as days that he had to struggle with getting through on his own, and that he was thankful he'd made it through (on his own).
So I guess my point is don't look at it as a day when you could've been.....or should've been.....
Look at it as a day when you are able to keep your chin up and get through the day b/c you are a strong and good woman.
That, and it really is just another day, it will only last for 24 hours, and it will be behind you. Look forward to the day after.
I hope this post was somehow encouraging.
Take care Goldie, my heart goes out to you, and you'll be in my prayers tonight!
Jen
<small>[ March 03, 2003, 10:22 PM: Message edited by: Jen Brown ]</small>
