Honey - I just wanted to tell you because you came to mind - My friend and my counselor have been telling me that I am codependent and I actually have said ok - I guess I am - but now I just got this book last night and it is great - I really am codependent and I thought of you while I was reading it - It is called - Codependent No More - by Melody Beattie - How to stop controlling others and start caring for yourself - it is very enlightening and I thought really you might be interested in reading it - there is another after this called Beyond Codependent that I will go with next - but the one quote that stuck out to me is this " A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior" - I am reading this and it is like I am looking in a mirror - at some of the points - Check it out....