hi just had a question how can you make deposits in someones love bank if your h doesnt really want to take the chance on being alone toghether ,he says he is trying by being home but he doesnt want to go out on dates or do anything when it would be just me and him is there still hope if he is already thinking about divorce? he says he doesnt feel right being home with me because he doesnt love me as much as he used to but he hasnt left yet he says he is too scared of hurting me and the kids but yet he will not take help from anyone so im trying to do it by myself if i just continue loving him and caring for him will that be enough to get him to realize he shouldnt give up so easy especially after 16 years and 15 of those were wonderful years. someone please help me?? <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Well I can say that I do not even live in my house and I am making "deposits" into my W's. Its hard, but every chance that I can show I am changing I do it. I give her cards, flowers anything that she enjoys I do it. I still do it even though she may not like it or act as if she doesnt care.

Its working, just a little a time.

Alot of people her say "Time is on your side" and I believe more and more every day.

Good Luck

<small>[ March 06, 2003, 04:14 PM: Message edited by: Any Time Now... ]</small>

any time now,
from a h point of view could it be guilt that is keeping him from opening up to me some days he comes home from work and he doesnt want to look at me hed rather just be left alone, he is with the other woman all day at work getting his emotional needs from her even though ive told him and tried to show him im right here for him . ive told him to quit his job but he cant things are so hard right now i feel like if he could just get away from her things would be so much better. what do you think?