Can I ask our female members for their views on this please.

I am a very sexuallly active person. My wife is not. If I wait for my wife to make the first move for sex, I will have to wait for up to 2 weeks at the most. She has even told me that it can go up to a month. I, on the other hand, would like to have it every night, or every second night.

To strike a balance, my wife has indicated to me that when I need to make love, all I have to do is truned her on. Previously I used to turned her on by slowly caressing her breast or her clitoris. Lately I am finding out that they work anymore. Are there any other ways in which I could turn her on??

Secondly, whenever it is time for bed, my wife is usually tired. She has told me to ignore any signs of tiredness that she gives out, and go ahead and turn her on. I find it hard to do this as I am very considerate of the fact that she is tired. Would she be able to get turned on and enjoy making love when she is tired?

Maxwell.

Hey Maxwell. Have you signed up for the MB newsletter yet? I just got done reading a really informative article on just what you are wondering about. I don't know how to hook you up with the link or I would. Maybe someone else on the board can do it for you. If not sign up for the newsletter right now. The articles were really good, I learned a lot from them. Good luck.

Thank you Starman.

I will certainly do that. This is my first time in this forum, so it will take a while to get around.

Cheers.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Previously I used to turned her on by slowly caressing her breast or her clitoris. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Don't always go right for the "hot spots"... try mixing it up a little. Snuggle up behind her, kiss up and down her neck, whisper in her ear, rub your fingers gently up and down her side as you're talking to her, then try cupping her breasts and slowly moving down. It's all about taking it slow, building up the tension. Kiss her softly at first and then more passionately, things like that. And yes, it is very possible for her to get turned on when she's tired. Good luck. You sound very caring and considerate, I'm sure you'll do great. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Thank you for the advice marriedgirl. I will certainly try those foreplay techniques out (if I may call them that).

I realise that my main problem is that I am too considerate of her wellbeing to at least give it a try. I also fear rejection, in case she says "no I am too tired".

But you gotta try it out to find out!!

Many thanks again.

Have her fill out emotional needs in foreplay, or what she would like prior to the act of sex. Maybe she is one that would like a hot bubble bath. If she is tired all the time, maybe you two could have a maid come in to clean the house. There are so many things, but you need to find out why she is tired, and maybe there is a chemical imbalance in her. Has she had a checkup, for iron, or hormone inbalance. She at least said the reason for her initiation not being there. I would check further into this problem, and find the solution. Being, medication, procedures, prior petting, mood setting, or what.

I think you are doing yourself in. Your wife has told you to go for it anytime you want. She told you that even if she is tired that you should go for it and try to turn her on. What more do you want? I think your wife is being great to you but you are afraid to make a move because you are too considerate? My friend if she did not want to have sex with you she would not be saying this.
If she is too tired she will say stop. I think the problem is you and not your wife. She is giving you all of the opportunity you want and it is you who is holding back. You are married and your wife says go for it so the problem is you and not her. My advise is to go for it and stop over analysing everything. I wish you luck.