recently discovered my husband had a 2-3 year affair with his married co-worker. i suspected something wasn't quite right the whole time, and finally confronted him 2 weeks ago. the OW is married as well, and has 2 boys just like we do. despite the pain this has caused, i believe by following dr. harley's advice, our marriage could be stronger than ever. my problem is that we may not be able to even start Plan A because my husband chose to have an affair with the woman he depends on at work (she is very good at what she does and helps him keep his job). They still have work contact every day, although he insists that as of last year, mostly he convinced her that they were doing the wrong thing and the sexual part of the affair is over. a the main facts as explained by my husband are that they had an incredible mutual sexual attraction, that

There are some cases where when the WS is STILL working with the OP and they make it work......but not very many.

Is it at all possible for your H to look for a different job? You say that he depends on this woman not only because she is good at her job but because she helps your H keep his......not sure that is the best environment for him to work in.

Will it be good for you for your H to keep this particular job.........can you handle it yourself?

Dr. Harley's suggestion is for the WS to quit that job....and move if possible.....but I know it's not always possible.

My H couldn't quit his job......but luckily the OW quit not long after their A was over.

<small>[ March 21, 2003, 10:01 AM: Message edited by: Miss Priss ]</small>