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Spring is around the corner and there is SOOOOO much to look forward to... I am fairly bursting.
I just had to post a positive message of renewal.
D-day anniversary #2 is right around the corner. Trigger season has triggered nothing this year except JOY that we have come so far.
Putting God and Jesus in our lives and our marriage has been the best CURE yet. Efft lets me know in many ways every single day that he loves me.
Just a couple of days ago he swept me into his arms and KISSED me... those of you who know me and our story... THIS WAS A BIG DEAL...
I know there can be a lot of despair on the boards. I know as a newbie I could NEVER believe that it would be any different than it was RIGHT THEN...
...but there was ALWAYS someone at MB who encouraged me and I found a way to hope....
My goal went from saving my marriage... to saving me... and I think that made the difference. I WOULD BE WHOLE AND HEALED... and so too will YOU... just make THAT your goal.
Cali
<small>[ March 28, 2003, 12:44 PM: Message edited by: Cali ]</small>
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Cali - I rarely stop by this forum anymore. Glad I did today! Grinning from ear to ear for you!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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It makes me so happy to read this .... I get renewed faith in relationships and marriage, good for my soul. Says there's hope that perhaps one day I'll find someone to share such joy with. Thank you, Cali. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Lv, Jo
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Cali, sweetie... You still da queen... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> E
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Cali, continued Blessings and Grace to you and him...and the children... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ARK
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<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Happy for you.
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dear cali- i so understand what you mean about trying to save the marriage, then just trying to save you. i have recently gone through the same thing. i dont know if it is it or not, but there is a huge difference in my hubby lately. i keep catching him looking at me..... a look i remember from when we first met. a look that says" she's amazing, what is she doing with me..im the luckiest guy in the world." i've missed that look. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> anyway i just gave up and worked on me, i was gonna get through this no matter what. and you know what---i have!! i'm gonna be fine... no matter what. im good. ive been on a journey, an amazing journey that will not define me but make me stronger. thanks to you and some others who have helped me so much in the beginning. you were truely a gift.
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<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Thumbs up for us, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Cali. It IS nice to lead a somewhat normal life again isn't it! We still are under alot of stress from kids, jobs etc. But we deal with it TOGETHER!
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I always love to read your positive updates Cali. You're such an awesome individual, and I thank God that your H finally woke up and saw that before it was too late! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> After all your family has been through, you truly deserve to be happy. And I am, as usual, so very happy for you, and your stronger, more fulfilled, and WISER family. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Luv ya! Karen
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Congratulations Cali! It's pretty amazing when it works,,isn't it?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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You go girl! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
We are so happy and proud of how far you both have come.
**Happy Dance**
Love ya!
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"My goal went from saving my marriage... to saving me... and I think that made the difference. I WOULD BE WHOLE AND HEALED... and so too will YOU... just make THAT your goal."
I hear you girl! Your story just made my morning, thank you!
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Cali ~
Thanks for sharing your joy!
I've been off the boards for awhile and comiong back has been distressing..so many psosts stating that "its over!, he loves her~etc."
You are absolutely right...what you said about saving yoruself made me think of something that I think we all need to remember that the Harleys say about love.
I am not going to go find it now (too much reading!) but to paraphrase it, the Harleys say that if you aren't sure if your spouse loves you, then you need to answer the question: Are you a lovable spouse?. Basically, if you are worried about your spouse loving you, you need to look at yourself.
I definately saw you do this over the months, and it worked didn't it? I also think thats one of the best things I got out of my husbands affair. I now look in the mirror an dlike what i see, because i addressed my 'stuff'.
Anyway, sorry to ramble on. Congratulations to you and your husband!
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Bramble rose,,, your right.. how can I expect her to love me when I have not been lovable.. what an eyeopener,,, thanks Cali.. Its so nice to see that everything turned out for you.. I only wish that I have not run out of time . which I am certain I have.. your point on saving you instead of your marriage opened my eyes...please give me some more background.. I think that this could be something for me to take and run with..I have been such a loser in my marriage.. not tteating my wife like gold and then driving her into the arm of another man.. her love for me is gone and I have to get that love back.. but know its about me and not saving the marriage..
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Bramble rose,,, your right.. how can I expect her to love me when I have not been lovable.. what an eyeopener,,, thanks Cali.. Its so nice to see that everything turned out for you.. I only wish that I have not run out of time . which I am certain I have.. your point on saving you instead of your marriage opened my eyes...please give me some more background.. I think that this could be something for me to take and run with..I have been such a loser in my marriage.. not tteating my wife like gold and then driving her into the arm of another man.. her love for me is gone and I have to get that love back.. but know its about me and not saving the marriage..
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Sorry guys... busy weekend! The boys had a track meet and H wanted to get out of the house today, so we spent the day shopping <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> . Thanks all for good wishes. There is so much doom and gloom on the boards; that occasionally we need to interject some GOOD stuff. marathonman you said: </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I have been such a loser in my marriage.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Please remember that we do our best in life, or at least we try to. You did NOT drive your wife into another man's arms... she did that. She could have made a dozen other choices, but she didn't. Try individual counseling, or a small group... both have been tremendously helpful for me. Cali
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Hi Cali,
I'm happy for you! God is good! May His blessings continue.
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